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MIL problems
My hubby's mom showed up to our home unexpectedly with her friend. I haven't been feeling well all day and this visit didn't help. I had already spoken to my hubby about how it bothered me that his mom kept demanding we change the name we chose for our daughter. He pretty much told me not to let it get to me. So today, as soon as she brought up the subject again, I told myself to just sit there quietly while she went on and on saying that name means something awful in the country she is from, and that its an ugly name and she doesn't like it. I don't know what came over me, my heart raced and I blurted out loud "Too bad!", and left the room. My hubby tried telling her "well we don't live in that country anymore" and "why are you being like this". I just couldnt sit there quietly, especially since I love my daughter's name which means "princess" in English, and I've been calling her that ever since we found out we were having a girl. Yesterday I bought some letters that spell out her name to hang on the nursery's door and decorated them. She saw them today and asked "So you guys have decided to stick with that name?" And after my hubby said yes is when this whole thing happened. I took it personal, because guess what, thats what she will be calling her granddaughter so she might as well stop hating it. Now I'm not sure if I should feel guilty or if it was a good thing to stand up to my MIL for the 1st time..?
The good news is...your man went to bat for you. Thats fantastic. Clearly his umbilical was severed properly. Lol Some of us have had to perform surgeries ourselves lol
No,you have every right to be upset. Its not her place.
Chosing a childs name is a job belonging to the parents only. Thats it.
Dont feel bad. I gave my daughter my sisters name as a middle name just to **** my exs mom off. It doesnt flow. But Ill be damned If I was gonna let that woman have her say in naming my kid!
No,you have every right to be upset. Its not her place.
Chosing a childs name is a job belonging to the parents only. Thats it.
Dont feel bad. I gave my daughter my sisters name as a middle name just to **** my exs mom off. It doesnt flow. But Ill be damned If I was gonna let that woman have her say in naming my kid!
Good for you! Lol. It's kinda funny tho, you said "Too bad!" And walked out. That's your child you carrying her so therefore forget what everybody else opinion is mother in law or not!
Lol I think you did the right thing. Everyone is getting so involved in our lil one's name we have decided to not name her til hospital. We have a list of names we like but are sick of people telling us why they dont like the name. Funny thing is no one seconded us with our first daughter and our son but now they think since we already got to name a girl that it is their turn. My husband regularly turns down my mom and sister. My ob also shut down my mom when she said she should get to pick the name my ob said "no. I have to respectfully disagree". My mom wasn't very happy but you should have seen how happy that response made my husband and I lol.
I think you did the right thing. Everyone has to have an opinion, I just wish they would keep it to themselves. We have told very few people our little girl's name because of this. Once she is born, it will be revealed. I just wish people would live by things I learned when I was younger, like mind your own business or if you have nothing nice to say, don't sayanything at all . Lol. Stay strong!
You have to stand up babe. People need to respect you and your opinions, this way maybe next time shelk know not to nag you cause it wont make a difference. Dont worry shell grow to love it.
This is the story of my life right now! My mil keeps making back handed comments about the name we chose. It's so frustrating! Good for you for standing up for yourself. I'm too big of a baby and she's not being mean, just really rubs me the wrong way. I'm not backing down either! I just smile and tell her it is the name and it's not changing.
lol, well I think I had to perform a little minor surgery myself.
All it really does it just that, makes me refuse to consider another name even more.
All it really does it just that, makes me refuse to consider another name even more.
I know lol! It was hard to just say that and not add anything else as I was walking out! Especially with all the hormones these days, I probably could've burst into tears as well!
That must have been awesome..reality check for your mom lol. That's what I plan to do with my next pregnancies, announce the name until the birth. I was so 'innocent' going into this, being a first time mom and all. I had no clue that this kind of thing happened. I can't imagine being rude like that when my friends or sisters will tell me what they are going to name their babies.
Seriously, it all comes down to what we learned in elementary.
Thanks : )
Thanks : )
I hope so. Thanks :)
Sounds like you have a lot of self control! I cracked under pressure. I think she's going to make me a more aggressive person, lol.. I'm generally very nice and quiet, but now with a baby on the way, I'm feeling the protective mommy instinct kicking in, even with talking bad about my baby's name lol.
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