need to vent

[Blkbeauty07]

Hi ladies!  I need to vent to ppl who I know will understand my situation better then my fiance.  I'm currently 12w+6d and I hve not been wanting to have sex, hug, or kiss him for weeks! I know as a man he have needs but I'm just not in the mood! I work and when I come home I just wanna relax and lie down! It has come to the point were we argue about it sometimes! I'm not trying to ignore him it's just tht I'm NOT in the mood to do anything!  Am I in the wrong? What should I do? :(

[astew03]

I totally understand!! I'm in the same boat.. I don't want to be bothered at all... I think he understands...sometimes..lol...

[laurah87belfast]

Im the same.  If thy heart u thyll understand. Xxx

[3babyboyz]

That's how i feel most of the time too cuz sometimes we do it like either once every 2-4 weeks cuz im never in the mood n I've been like that with all 3 of my pregnancies but luckily wr don't argue about it n we got 2 other kids as well so it makes it a little harder especially when they don't like to sleep but sometimes i have to force myself every so often just to please him

[MrsP1209]

I know exactly what you mean. I'm constantly turning my partner down in favour of sleep! Then I experience guilt because I feel like I should be wanting to have sex with him and I don't. I'm really hoping it will pass. I'm only 8wk4days with first pregnancy. I really sympathise with you as it causes arguments with us sometimes too and I find it impossible to find the right words to make him understand how I'm feeling.

[raerae428]

I have been there this is my third baby. Sometimes you have to do it for him. I know it's hard but men do need attention to. They don't understand being pregnant or the hormones and the crying thing lol it gets better just be patient and for him just try.

[ash060115]

Your not wrong - you need to sit him down for a chat and explain it to him be honest and open. Ask how he feels too. ..

I went through a phase like that too where I'd literally tell my boyfriend I couldn't stand the smell of him!  (He'd be fresh out of a shower! But to me was disgusting)
Few weeks later just the smell of him made me want to rip his clothes off!! I was like a teenager snogging him every five mins haha ..

it will pass soon and you'll laugh about it then. . But until then just be honest with him.
Fatigue in the early weeks is extremely hard...

my granny told me to explain tiredness like this to men
"When a pregnant woman is sitting down her body is working harder than a man working out in a gyms body"

[calybsmommy]

I have same problem.. I wish I had an answer for you.  My hubby just gets pissy at me which really doesn't help, makes me want it even less.