He won't have sex with me

[sunflwrdoll]

I'm at 20w of a accidental pregnancy. We're both excited for a baby. While we spend a lot of time together and he's very sweet, big on snuggles and kisses, he doesn't touch me. I've tried being sexy which is hard because I don't feel sexy. I tried being coy, I tried being commanding. I even flat out asked him to make love to me. I get refused in no uncertain terms every time. I'm already feeling insecure, now it's worse. I feel so sad and lonely. What do I do?

[Hannat06]

My boyfriend told me he's really turned off by three discharge. My fault, I always tell him everything. I understand his view though.... I think it's gross too. I haven't had sex for about 3 months. But I'm 37w so I'm almost done

[thirdtimemum]

I know my partner started to feel funny about sex when i started showing, and then when i was really big, over the 30 week mark, he felt really weird about it, and when i asked him why, he said he felt like there was 3 of us having sex! He felt like the baby was just 'there' and it wasn't a personal connection anymore, maybe thats the way your man feels? Maybe talk to him about it, see how he feels.

[singermomtobe]

Ladies....amazon.com has a nice selection of toys and a varying range of prices and uses. ;-) I am on the other end of the spectrum...wishing my SO wanted sex less. Guess I should be happy now, I fear when I get bigger he'll change his mind.

[tiffyprice]

I would ask him why he doesn't want to have sex. When you are pregnant communication is the key in this area. If it is because he is afraid of hurting the baby then try and explain he isn't going to and if that doesn't work take him with you to the doctor and seeif they can explain it better to him.  That is what I had to do when I was pregnant with my first child.

[nitrah]

My husband was the hornball my first and second trimester, I was the one afraid to hurt the baby plus I had little energy to enjoy the fun time. Now the tables have turned, I want sex all the time but all he sees is pregnant me and afraid to hurt me or the baby. he will cuddle and kiss and caress my belly. I asked him last night and he's assured me he still found me attractive, but I'm like show and tell please! Lol you're not alone.

[cammie2003]

I do understand. I've had to back off my husband because he just can't do it. All he sees is a pregnant me. I just decided to leave him alone and focus on other things and hopefully he'll come around. I was feeling insecure too because I don't feel like anything is different. I still feel the same and I don't think I'm that big either but idk what he sees. Anyway you might wanna go with a toy like the other ladies suggested. I'm looking for one I can afford myself lol!

[Brittany12385]

Toys are great! Haha

[NMascali]

May be spiteful,  but I wouldn't do one thing for him until he gave it up lol. Sex means so much to me. Not just for the release but for the connection. You have to tell him in any way you can that you need sex/to make love. Good luck to you! Oh, and still buy the toy lol. Im going to do so as well!

[surprisedashell]

Look at it this way. If you were worried or concerned or creeped out by sex and how it could affect you or the baby would YOU want him to pressure you about sex? I think that sometimes we look at guys as shallow horn dogs who have no problem hopping into bed whenever we are in the mood. I would step back, stop pressuring him and wait until he feels comfortable. Treat his feelings with as much respect as you would expect him to treat yours. .... and buy a toy :)

[SonoTech55]

He's probably afraid to "hurt" the baby.  Maybe you should flat out tell him what you want and also tell him it won't effect the baby.