Family hoping it's a girl! It annoys me.

[dandi2014]

Hi girls,
So I am 13weeks pregnant and we just told our families this weekend.

My older brother already have two boys and now my aunt, father, and other family members are saying they hope it's a girl I am having to "mix it up" since they already have small boys in the family.

I get it. I do.
They want to pick up girly stuff, cute dresses etc etc. But I cant DECIDE what sex it will be.
I know my aunt will be very disappointed if it is a boy and it REALLY annoys me.

My aunt keeps rambling on about girl stuff and when I said "hey, it could be a boy" she just went quiet. WTF?!??!!

I am perfectly happy with either but now find myself worried to disappoint them and that is a feeling I don't want to have.

I will find out the sex in 8weeks or so.. but considering keeping it to just my husband and myself, I dont have the energy to hear their half hearted "oh its a boy! Yay!" When I know they want a girl.

What should I do?
I am so annoyed with all the intense wishes for a girl. :(
I just want them to be happy -no matter- the baby's sex!

[dandi2014]

Thank you! I am ignoring my family's wishes.
I just thought it was untasteful of them to express their preference.
So kind of disappointed in them for doing that.
Anyway, we are very excited for either gender and we have been looking at baby clothes - I have to say the baby boy clothes are just as cute!
:)
Can't wait to find out!

[mommybrandyozuna]

My husband wanted a boy is the only reason I'm pregnant rote now! But nope now he will have to girls and have to wait to see if he will have a grandson (in the far future) but his family loved it cause I have the only girls in 2 generations!  But I cried when I told my husband it was a girl the first time and at our gender id party for baby #2 I ran out the room! But he came to get me and said he didn't care he just wanted it to be healthy and he loves his girls! And my daughter is so close to him and could care less about me sometimes so I know I will have 2 daddy's girls! And when he held our first for the first time he was over all of it he cried and talked to her and made sure no one hurt her and now even at McDonald's he watches her like a daddy hawk! Lol just enjoy being pregnant with ur child and ur and ur husband are a family u don't need anymore pressure on u from outside peeps!

[knufrio]

I know how you feel... My husband and I really want a boy but everyone wants us to have a girl! Its so frustrating when they are all talking about everything pink and all the cute clothes and stuff and I just roll my eyes. Plus even if we have a girl I want NOTHING PINK!

[sprmom87]

I went through almost the same thing, I have 2 girls and when we announced we were pregnant again everyone wanted this one was a boy. I had to listen to both families go on and on for 9 weeks. They were even giving me boy clothes! I told them for weeks that it wasn't a boy, I was having dreams and feelings it was another girl. Sure enough at my 20 week scan it was shown to be a girl. I called my mom and a few others who were all disappointed and I ended up crying for days and didn't tell anyone else for several weeks.
My girls are beyond excited to be getting another sister and they are the best support I ever needed :)

[dragondance]

I have the same problem my sister has 2 beautiful girls and no plans to make any more lol. When I told my father I was pregnant he asked if we could try to make it a boy to mix it up which is what my husband wants first too. Girls scare him I find out this Thursday and am scared that he won't be as excited if it's a girl.  Silly I know I have nothing to do with the baby's sex but will feel like I let ppl down

[dandi2014]

It helps to know that I am not alone.
thank you girls!
I will enjoy every moment with my precious baby. :)

[Snowdin28]

With my last pregnancy (7 years ago) my ex really wanted a boy. We had two girls already and he had actually walked out of the ultrasound with our second child upon finding out her gender. Because of my age and the horrible control this "man" (I use the term losely) had over me. I was terrified to dissapoint him a 3rd time. I felt like this was my last shot to hang on to him so it completely overshadowed the ability to just be happy about what he or she would be. The day of my 20 week ultrasound came and I was excited and nervous. Within 5 seconds of the ultrasound the baby's gender was right in my face... Boy!! Finally got a boy. I was so happy and relieved to finally give him what he wanted. Long story short, my son will be 7 this June and he couldn't pick his father out of a line up. My son went on to be the biggest momma's boy and the bond we share is amazing. I love my kids each in their own way, and I love the diversity he brings to the family since he's all boy. Long story I know.. sorry. My point in all this is, Don't feel pressure to please anyone else. The gender is out of your hands. If you're ok with the baby being a boy than don't let your family take that from you. At the end of the day you will be the one caring for your child full time, not them. They will love that child regardless of the gender and so will you. Relax and enjoy the next few months and worry about things that are in your control.. like a nursery ;) enjoy

[naru89]

My husbands family was all it has to be a girl and then we found out it was a boy. My mil was very disapointed and told me to my face not only did my husband get mad at her my mom did too i was so glad they stood up for me now my mil has warmed up to the idea. People can be hurt ful but its your baby and as long as its healthy you will love it all the same. Stay strong mama

[mandynyl]

I have same problem as you darling, I don't care what am having but everyone is wishing it's a boy just because my other sisters have girls already and it annoys me as well. Because of that I have come this far 25weeks without finding out the sex but during my sonographer exam I thought I looked and now guessing it's a girl now I feel so sad.  Haven't told anyone but I still want to believe it might be a surprise

[thenewmrs_b]

My family was like that with my first... actually so were my in laws!!! My sister has 3 sons and my whole family was having a heart attack about me having a girl and my mil had two sons and my first was her first grand child. We did end up having a girl so it worked out for everyone but I knew if it was a boy I would have told them when I found out so they could get used to the idea and not hurt my feelings when I gave birth... do whatever makes you comfortable mama... enjoy your boy or girl and ignore them

[whisper3rdbaby]

I know the feeling. My mother was that way wishing for me to have a boy because she already has 5 granddaughters and only 1 grandson. Thankfully we both got what she was hoping for, I finally get my lil boy and she finally gets 2 more grandsons because my little brother and his girlfriend just found out few weeks ago his 1st baby is a boy. She has been hoping for 10 years one of us at least would have a boy but was just as happy when we found out girls. Just not as excited because she already has girls to shop for and my nephew the only boy wilk be 11 in November so he doesn't let her pick out his stuff no more. Your families will still be happy if it's a boy but I would make them wait to find out just for them making you feel pressured. They know no matter how much we might wish for boy/girl we don't get to pick. I thought about making my mom wait to find out especially when I saw it was a boy but she called my phone 30 times during my appt and I knew if I didn't tell her she would drive me insane lol.

[dandi2014]

I think we will find out the sex and keep it secret.
It wouldnt be hard to keep it secret since we live abroad. :)
I hope you have very healthy and happy pregnancies! :) <3

[EzzaC]

My family is exactly the same. So we just don't find out the sex :) keeps them quiet for 40 weeks anyway. First born is a boy and I'm 24 weeks with the second unknown.

[dandi2014]

I don't think they will be angry. But definetly disappointed if it is a boy.

[Mommasduh]

Well family support is very healthy and important but if it'll effect how you feel then it shouldn't matter. You cannot pick the sex of your child so what ever happens happens. I'm sure even if your aunt is angry she'll still love your child. Every female wants a girl it's natural, but to show anger towards a mother because the sex isn't what you Want it to be seems very unhealthy and ignorant. Bless your child. Keep the sex to yourself if they'll get angry.