am I selfish or ungrateful?

[youngnewmommy]

My SIL, MIL, SM & Mom are putting my shower together which is Saturday.  I met with all of them when I was like 4months to tell them what I wanted. So they all met today but I wasn't allowed to go.  My MIL comes back n says no one wants to play the shower games and the chef is the entertainment. She said she mentioned all kinds of shower games but everyone said they hated games. That hurt my feelings and started to cry and said the next baby I'm doing my own shower! But then I feel selfish/ungrateful because they are paying for it & I havent put a dime in to it.  Am I being selfish/ungrateful because I wanted baby shower games?

[Miss_Courtney]

I don't think you're being selfish. You should be able to have the shower YOU want. They're not having the baby, you are.

[youngnewmommy]

Don't get me wrong, I am thankful I'm getting one. I really I am. I guess I let my emotions get the best me. Its just a game. But the belly cast I'm fighting for.. I forgot to mention, I am a FTM.

[Ohh_Baby]

Honestly I would appreciate everything theyve done so far & bring my own games. I'd probably let the know the day before & just explain how important it is to you. Remember this is YOUR baby shower & just bc you're not throwing it, doesn't mean you're not entitled to have what you want

[expecting6thbaby]

Tell them it soundslike they are throwing their own shower and you dont feel invited so tell you how it turns out..lol... sorry I could not help it they are not taking your feelings into account. A shower is to make the mother feel better and to do somthing for you. It just sounds like they want to throw them sells and are using you as an excuse.

[sew2009]

Enjoy the fellowship! It'll be as social as you make it. I personally do not care for baby showers with games. I avoid them at all costs. Lol I guess everyone is different. I say as long as there is friends family gifts and food it is a good day! If games mean that much to you see if you can compromise with one simple game like the clothes pin game poor the yam one where people guess your size by cutting yarn? They can be done without a lot of space and allow people to play or not play.

[Bridget8705]

To me, any shower at all is nice.  They don't have to throw u anything, be grateful and just enjoy it!  :)  Baby shower games are over rated anyways and can drag on. Remember this is about seeing everyone and embracing the new little life and getting things to help prepare for the new arrival.  Not playing a game or 2 in the end, won't even matter.  I'm sure it will still be a wonderful event so just sit back and enjoy it!  

[youngnewmommy]

Exactly!!! I don't want to remember it as "I had a chef.... but that was it... " I'm just your average girl raised in a small hick town.  I don't want that fru fru stuff. I feel like that's what I'm getting. Uh.. :-\

[AML0212]

Sure, they are throwing it... but you want your shower to be something you really enjoy and have a good time at! You don't want to look back years from now and think, "yea, it was nice... but I had no say and didn't have anything I wanted there..." I think it sounds like they are being the selfish ones!

[youngnewmommy]

I mean my mom was nice about it at least.  She said " honey there's just no room to put it anywhere." I'm bringing it anyways and I don't care. I'll find a spot for the d a m n thing!!

[Retro_Raven]

It's your shower regardless of who is throwing it your wishes should be honored such surely, I think you have every right to be upset x

[mommylece]

OMG lol r u serious? It's like they are trying to push a pregnant women's buttons by saying you can't even bring your belly cast that's just crazy!

[youngnewmommy]

I mean I'm still having and going. Im thankful their doing it. I was told by my mom I'm not allowed to bring my belly cast to the shower. That was the whole reason I got it done. I guess my hormones are raging. Uh!!

[AML0212]

I don't think so at all. Sure, the games are silly sometimes, but it makes it more fun! Everyone needs to suck it up and play some games. It's your day! You should get games if you want games. It's not like you are asking for something really expensive or ridiculous. You just want a few games! That's not a big deal.

[mommylece]

I totally see where you are coming from. Like it's not a baby shower without the games but if they are the ones throwing it and paying for everything I'd just be grateful to be having one ya know. But I do see both sides.