am i being lazy?

[pregwith5th786]

I'm 20+2 weeks. I'm trying to keep house clean, I do cooking everyday, taking care of the kids, doing school runs, shopping every other day and trying to keep my family happy. If I need help I tell my kids to help me a little.

What do I hear in return from my husband "y are u always being lazy by telling kids to help u and y  Dont u do any thing your self". Is this y we ladies r in this world to do all the running around n bring babies into this world and still no one appreciates us :(

I have already had a stillbirth in august at 38 weeks i dont wanna go through the same think again. I'm trying to lookafter myself as much as I can but no I Dont have that right according to some people.

[Isabelmommy]

Your husband sounds horrible. Sorry. When I was around 20 weeks I was exhausted and even though mine didn't help much he never complained if I did nothing all day. Sometimes I would drop my daughter off at school and take a nap till he got home. Kids need responsibility or they will turn out lazy.

[tmb98310]

Omg I agree it's a lot carrying a baby and still maintaining a home. I have a five year old boy I work full time retail I may add. If I'm lazy so be it I don't care. My bf sisters had to let my bf know it's a lot on us. Hello we are bringing another human being into this world.

[boupidbird]

It's good for the kids to help you! Dad should be helping as well!

[rabeccarice]

Wow I'm sorry he needs to be put in his place that's not right. My kids do a lot it tea he's them responsibility and respect. My kids are 7,4 and 3 and they clean up and fold and put their clothes away my oldest even washes the laundry,sometimes, after what you went threw your husband should be waighting on you hand a foot

[19jellybean94]

I'd be telling him exactly how it is, stand up for yourself. People fail to see why some kids are lazy or spoiled, it's because parents do everything for them - so no, your not being lazy. You have every right to ask for help and the kids should be helping anyway. You could say something like this to your husband "I do everything around the house, i'm carrying your child and deserve to have help. The kids should be helping around the house anyway". It's not the dark ages anymore,women are NOT slaves and sexaul slaves to men anymore. We are just as equal as men and our bodies work hard to give our babies life. So, you deserve a break and don't let him bully you or make you feel guilty. He sounds selfish and unappreciative of what you do but as i said, stand up for yourself!

[Marrie_33]

And your definitely not being lazy being pregnant ***** all the energy you had out of you. Some of these men are funny but they know good and well how much they are babies when they are sick. They would without a doubt die even if they had to carry a baby for a day lol that's why God left that job to us woman. So keep your head up I hope you start feeling better!! :-)

[Marrie_33]

You have every right to rest all pregnant woman have earned that right. Carrying a baby is a full time job. This is my first and last lol I'm only 3 months and I gotta admit I'm spoiled to death lol my family doesn't want me to really do anything and I'm starting to believe them lol

[pregwith5th786]

Sorry had to vent