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am i wrong? shouldn't your child and wife come first?
So my husband is 3 years younger then me. And this will be his first child. He has always worked his butt off for his mom and gave her almost every penny he earned while working so she can have a better life . she's always had food stamps and all and basically the money he gave her was for her to live in luxury. Well if that wasn't bad enough she's not a citizen or anything and when my husband was born she used his social to open up all kinds of credit cards and accounts everywhere with her name , so my husband can't get credit anywhere and also has a very hard time when looking for a job bc they ask him for so much things to prove his identity. I'm not working at the moment and yes we do struggle a lot. I have credit cards but they are all maxed out and everything else is to my name too bc he has no credit , he practically doesn't exist. So I've told him he needs to do something about that situation bc his child is on his way and in a financial emergency we need a bail out at least with a credit card or something but he doesn't wanna affect his mom. I see his point but what she did is wrong and now she is in debt with his social with $30,000. And I don't think my child should pay the price. Am I wrong?
He could get her for fraud BC it actually is. She basically stole his identity now your both laying the price...
@ callmecarrie awww thank you lol. I will I have to stop stressing this and let things be.
@ ireloc I agree. That's a horrible thing to do and I can't even imagine doing that or anything like that to my kids. Smh. He can't file for bankruptcy bc all the credit open was done with his social and her name so he basically doesn't exist. The only thing I can think of is him claiming identity theft and filing maybe for a new social but I doubt he would want to. She's trying to fix her papers so I'm sure shes not going to be able to anyhow due to this. She's in debt 30,000 in her name with another persons social. Her getting in trouble is inevitable so I know what ever my husband does wouldn't even make a difference.
Hang in there. When I had my first I couldn't even afford lay away. Lol it was sad. Stay positive things will work out.
@ callmecarrie I know I'm trying to be patient I really am. And I understand him a lot but makes me very angry. I even told him last time he should tell his mom to put the stroller on her target card since he's not able to get one thanks to her. I know I shouldn't have but we are in this together and when times get rough I always end up figuring it out or asking my parents for $ . and I seriously don't think I need that.
*he may want
He should stop giving money to his mom, it seems she spent that, hers and got into a bunch of debt, all of which is in his name, which is horrible for a parent to do to their child. He want want to look at bankruptcy to clear the debt and start a clean slate for himself and your family. I would also put an "identity mark" on credit so she can't open credit cards or anything under his name again. If she gets in trouble then that's on her, what she did was wrong to begin with.
His mom is his mom they can do no wrong
Right? He doesn't want her to have problems or go to jail but I mean that's something she should of thought of before she did her thing not him. There she is with her 60' TV and here we are putting a stroller on lay away bc that's the only way we could do it. Smh
Wow sounds like he's in a tough spot. I think baby is priority always. I used to help my parents until I had my first baby and became a stay at home mom. I thought they would be in financial trouble without my help but they do fine. Maybe tell him she'll be fine just as she's always figured out how to survive before his help. She needs to understand he's a parent and has to provide for kids and not adults who can work. Good luck. I would be patient with him because it's not easy for him I'm sure
Not at all...sounds like ur husband needs to open his eyes and grow up in ths area. :(
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