need help?? keep or clinic?

[mommie87]

Hi there!!! I'm a mother to a three year girl and just recently found out I'm pregnant (5w5days) its not by the same person :-( so i don't know if I should keep this baby or go to the clinic because I don't have the funds available only from my daughter ssi because she has had a heart transplant back in 2011. Im 26 still in my mom house not working at the time but capeable of doing so..So the question is do I keep the baby or go to the clinic ..need advice please thank you in advance.

[Amy1830]

Sorry I didn't realize you said you're already a mom, so you know that love that I speak of! Also, a friend of mine had three sons with one man and then about ten years later she got pregnant when she was out of the country and the father couldn't get a visa to come to the US. She was so upset but she kept the baby and is forced to raise her alone. She's still very happy and her sons love having a new sibling. Financially, it was rough at first but she also managed to really put her mind to it and get a higher paying job.

[Amy1830]

9 years ago I was faced with a similar decision. I knew I didn't want to be with my sons father. He was a really bad guy in so many ways. Everyone told me to get an abortion. But I knew in my heart that I shouldn't. I was living in a studio apt by myself and only made $11 an hour at the time. I kept the baby and after he was born he gave me the drive to better my life. In the first year of his life I got a way better job, moved into a little two bedroom house and got a more reliable car. And every night I prayed for him to always be kept safe from his father and his influence. And God has always listened to me and now he is 9 and the best thing that ever happened to me. I'm pregnant with #2 and engaged to a great guy. We own a house and I started my own business this year. Maybe right now things don't seem ideal, but the way things are now aren't the way they are always going to be! You can still achieve your dreams, meet the right guy and be happy when you're a single mom. The love of your child is something you will never regret. But only you know in your heart what is best for you. Good luck with your decision!!

[mommie87]

Thank you everyone for your kind responses

[Veronica555]

Write a pros and cons list. Personally if I thought I could handle it and found means of finance that would support it, which they hsve programs out there. I would probably keep it. A sibling for my current baby is one of tje greatest reasons I wanted another child. So when im gone, they have each other.  But bringing a child into this world and not being able to care for it is a bad choice.  You know how it is having a baby, what it means,  how much it takes. Seriously write a pros n cons. I wouldn't b able to give up my babt for adoption knowing shes somewhere out there

[asmith21488]

I was in the same situation and thought id go through with adoption but regretted not aborting because the thought of having her and giving hee away was heartbreaking...i decided to keep her. I have a son and still live with my dad but i know i can do it...people have for ages.

[bcsegebarth]

Have you considered adoption?  There are so many couples that can't have children of their own. Please talk with a social worker or a pastor/minister. Ultimately it's your decision,  but you could give some family an AMAZING gift.

[seh4531]

Abortion is a personal decision. One you have to live with. I'm currently 39 weeks and 2 years ago chose to abort my first pregnancy because the father wasn't supportive. I very much regret that decision and chose to keep this pregnancy because of that even though I'll be a single momma now too.
What I found after aborting is that they are lots of crisis pregnancy centers and pro-life organizations out there to help you. Whether you keep, adopt, or abort these people help.
Only you can make this decision. I wish you luck.

[regcjl]

I think everything happens for a reason...u have to make that decision based on what's best for u and ur daughter... Talk to ur mom about it...or the baby's father... I know it will be hard but we tend to put ourselves in these situations when they can be avoided before hand

[mommie87]

What would you do if it were you??

[Mommy2Kayden]

We can't make that decision for you. You need to make it by yourself.