be careful who you invite to your baby shower

[bbm1188]

I've done a really stupid thing. See my father in law and mother in law are divorced but they are on good terms about it. My father in law has been dating this women for over a year, they have had a very rocky relationship. Despite that though when we go over there I talk with her a lot and were kinda close. Unfortunatly latley in the last few months she gets to drunk or we think she may be taking something (cause she'll act drunk but hasn't drank any alcohol) and starts talking all about my father in laws divorce and how hurt he was, she constantly talks about my father in law saying isn't he handsome, he's so awesome, he is the best father. At first that talk was cute but every single time I go over there all we talk about is my father in law. She seems more obsessed then in love but it could be the alcohol or the pills talking. My sister in laws can't stand her which I didn't know until after I invited her of course months ago. Now I'm nervous, my mother in law is throwing this party and I have no idea how she will act at my shower. I really want to think she'll be ok but if she starts misbehaving as my father in law calls it, its going to really **** off me, not to mention my sister in laws, my mother in law probably won't care as much since she moved on. But this could be really bad and I have not sent her an official invitation but when I found out I was pregnant I did stupidly not thinking invited her not realizing how awkward this could turn out. So do I make something up? Go through with it? I don't know what to do and yea I'm stressed cause my shower is next weekend.

[shastas84]

Honey, like a wedding, this is your day. Ask for some help talking to the girlfriend. Just tell her that you would like to avoid any awkward moments that day. If she shows up anyway have someone else ready to run interference for you. Kinda like a babysitter for her. That way if she starts to cause a scene they can distract her. Just be sure you enjoy the party. Leave her to someone else. ;)

[bbm1188]

Yea good point. She doesn't think my mother on law would have a problem with her bc mother in law,is really laid back and honestly cool with her. Just if she's at the shower saying or talking about the divorce and saying how robs heart was just so broken insinuating my mother in law broke his heart, talk about awkward, and she talks about that a lot!!. Maybe out of respect to my mother in law I won't invite her, I mean ill say I think it would be to awkward with the way she's been acting latley.

[precious1018]

Honey you can easily avoid her and not to invite her to your shower.if she asks you why she wasnt invited then you can say the party was thrown by mom-in-law. If she can act weird and drunk without sipping any alcohol i dont think you can b certain that she will behave nice at the party... think about it once and decide wats best infront of everyone...you dont want to embarrase urself or ur relatives because of some stupid things...

[bbm1188]

Yea I hope she understands I don't want her to come. Still thinking about it but my hubby says not to worry about it. I've mentioned to her not to say certain things if she comes, man and there's going to be alcohol at the shower, I hope she doesn't drink.

[Mandatace]

You always have the option that if she does misbehave you can ask her to leave. Maybe talk to your mother in law about it, she may have a solution for you.

[Babylevy]

Try to make it a happy moment. Block ppl out. You only have a baby shower once.