I know exactly how that is!! Only my son is the 4yr old who we have 24/7, my fiances two kids are 5 and 7 and we get them every other week. I bring it up continuously how much different he treats my son then his kids usually he says it's because we always have him verses his two so when his kids are there heed rather be their best friend so that they won't not want to come over. It's crap! I have seen all three kids in trouble at the same time for the same thing and usually my son always ends up with the worse punishment. Honestly, this is the only thing my other half and I fight about!
Sounds like u need to have a talk about everyone feeling equal then calling a family meeting, getting a understanding and agreeing this is how it will be from now on, this is ur life, ur Family and ur son shouldnt have to be sent away because that is HIS home as well an he should be comfortable too, he should have his toys and she have hers,family dates and family night,compromise. It has to work. Good Luck....
Thank you for those suggestions...I tried writting down how I feel because that works for some reason sometimes with us. So we'll see how that goes. And I'm also making sure I'm not letting this go until something changes
Im sorry to hear that and its good to vent! Have u tried to negotiate terms with your husband? For example (not a good one but) when your daughter comes for the weekend, there should be certain rules that apply such as sharing otherwise no one gets to play with it at all. Or say u deal with his daughter and he deals with ur son. Or even have a third neutral person handle the children so there are no biases. Some ideas, not great ones, but it definitely is best to talk it over with your husband. Good luck!