can't sleep

[alicesaidwhat]

My husband was being horrible to our dog earlier and I told him that if I catch him abusing the animals again, I'll call the cops. He said if our dog (who's only 4 months old..) ever bit him on the ear again, he'd punch him in the face. Wtf is wrong with him? What a psycho.

Anyway, he decides to go to sleep at like 9. I haven't seen him all day cause I've been at school. And he doesn't want to spend any time with me or talk to me. He just fell asleep.


And now I can't stop crying because I can't go to sleep because it's my birthday and everything just *****.
And I have heartburn.

Happy 25th.

[LeslieTate]

Seriously all these comments talking about they would leave and you need to get out of there are stupid. Just because the guy pushed the dog off the bed...I know ive pushed a couple dogs off of couches before, guess that was abuse. And I dont push children off of things...wow..lol...sorry but it's definitely a difference in a child and a damn animal. Maybe u treat the dog better than you do your husband. Get real people. Has the man ever hit you??

[rourou1985]

Ladies, I fully understand that what the husband did was very wrong and utterly unacceptable, but all these negative comments will only fuel Alice s resentment towards her hubby and probably create further problems between them..
Alice, A person who is cruel to animals or kids , definitely has a problem of some sort, but this is your husband, you married him for better and worse, try to understand the root of his anger, help him by loving him and supporting to get better , not by threatening to call the cops..
Love and communication are the key, trust me..Sit down and talk  to him gently and tell him how you feel..I wish you good luck and please do not answer anger by anger, it makes things worse.

[NikkiFaye77]

He sounds like a very abusive man, both physically and mentally.  Get out before it's too late for your sake, the animals' sake and baby's sake. This is a very serious situation.

[kellybigbelly]

Alice keep your chin up. Stay strong you know what you need to do for your family and don't forget it's not good to be crying yourself to sleep. No really man would allow his wife to be so upset doing nothing about it.

[RockRose]

And you need to get your poor puppy out of there while it's still "marketable" as a puppy and before he mutilates it.

[RockRose]

This seems like it's abusive jerk night on these forums.

Alice,  why did you choose this guy?  

*serious question*

I can't even imagine having sex with him.  

[due22jan15]

If hes going to abuse the dog or cat he will end up doing something to the baby so I will get I out now before its to late and if your saying that hes all ready in anger management well what does that say does he hurt u

[anukailash]

Hey .. darling may be u r getting a bit more emotional... talk to ur husban... I am a indian women... for us husband is priority... but even I am a dog lover... dont push ur husband away force him to be with u n the animals... u r a lady... trust me a lady can make a man do what ever she wants... if she decide so...dont use harsh words... use effective words... male just have one problem of ego... talk to ur husband n u will surely find some thing which bothering him... due to the changes u both r going may be u r also avoiding or missing some thing he wants from u... think about it... n sorry if I said some thing wrong... happy birth day... may ur year is filled with lots of joy...

[alicesaidwhat]

I don't want to lose my puppy, I'm his mama duck (he literally follows me everywhere and will cry if he can't). But I know I have to do what's best for him. My husband is seriously mental sometimes. If you're gonna shove your face into a dog's face and play like that, you're gonna get bit in the face. The dog doesn't know any better, he's just trying to have fun!
I think my husband is just jealous that the animals like me more. So he gets frustrated since he "paid for them". I told him he needs to FEED them, take care of them, be nice. But in the few moments I've had to have him feed them because I couldn't, he's forgotten...I come home and the animals are so hungry.

So I decided to go to school on my own today. Normally on his off days he'll drive me but I didn't want to deal with him. He couldn't even say sorry last night. He said it this morning when it meant virtually nothing. I have a doctor's appointment for the baby today too, which I told him he doesn't have to go. I just don't want him anywhere near us right now.

[a_miracle_in_me]

Something similar happened to me too I was worried never had seen him like that. Back then we had no kids and all I could think was if this is how he is now with our puppy how Wil he be with our children? So I gave him one warning only, I said if you treat him like that again I'm taking it to a shelter bc you obviously can't be a good dog keeper. Do I took our dog back to the shelter. Till this day he regrets his bad actions.

[LillybugsMommy]

I agree with Naki123. I couldn't stand looking much less being in a relationship with someone who abuses animals. Sick *******. Enough said.

[SD_CALI]

You need to get your dog away from your bf. What makes you think he treats your dog better when your not home. Im a animal lover and im against animal abuse.  & reading this made me angry dog's can definitely not defend themselves if their frighten. Poor baby it's probably scared of your husband already.  Between happy birthday . ;)

[alicesaidwhat]

That's exactly what I'm saying! If he can't even handle the animals, what makes me think he can take care of a child? At least you can leave a dog and cat at home by themselves. He doesn't get the reference. He thinks that since a child is different, he'll be different...I treat those animals like they're my babies. I told him we might as well give them up if he can't handle, and he said "maybe we should, we can't take care of them." Please. I take care of them perfectly fine, hence why they follow me around. I told him I'd be happy to post them up for adoption or find a place for me and the animals to live.

There's something seriously wrong with a person who can be mean to animals just because they're having a bad day.

And he's already in anger management! I asked him to communicate with me like how he learned in class. He was just quiet and fell back asleep while I cried.

[due22jan15]

So true

[kellybigbelly]

***** this has to happen on your birthday. That's no good being cruel to animals that's a big red flag. What happens when the baby accidentally hits him in the nose? Be careful he might need anger management classes. Sorry

[Naki123]

I don't want to sound to rude but I'm a firm believer that if animals are not being treated well, they should find another home. If you know he is being mean or abusing your cat and dog then you have a choice him or them. ... Personally I know what my choice would be as I believe how you treat animals shows your true character... I know this must be an aweful situation to be in. But it's only going to get harder when the baby gets here.

[alicesaidwhat]

The sad part is, is that we've already had this conversation before. When he was mean to the cat. When I saw him push our puppy off the bed for no reason, I told him that he knows how it makes me feel when he's mean to the animals, and that they don't know any better. But he doesn't seem to care.

I envy his ability to sleep so soundly in times like this. I can barely see out of my eyes and there he is, just sleeping.

[mskrystale]

That was supposed to be awww* not awesome. Darn spell check

[mskrystale]

Awesome sorry to hear that love. Happy Birthday! Try to be positive on you special day! Though I'm sure it's hard. Maybe your husband has something else bothering him, and he's taking it out on the puppy. I'm saying Its right, but could be his reason? Maybe I instead of telling him you're gunna call the cops, maybe try explaining the dog is  Puppy and he's going to nip and bite. But work out a solution together to train the pup to not do that. No punching or kicking,or abusing of course. I'm sure threatening your husband doesn't make him any happier, which in turns makes you sad. Communication is key,  and marriage is partnership,so you gotta work together as a team. Not against each other.
Best of luck to you! Hope everything works out for the best! And aging,  Happy Birthday doll! <3 :)