DEPRESSED

[Airica2]

I'm 35 weeks and I have been feeling really depressed when it comes to the changes in my body.... I know it will never look the same and I guess my question is are these feelings normal or am I being selfish...

[giraffe1020]

I am very aware that my body won't look the same but not sure how it will change. But I think of it this way: my partner and my baby will think I am lovely no matter what. So who cares what anyone else will think? What really matters is not how we look but how we make others feel.

[Amy1830]

I think it's definitely normal. At least you are aware of your body though so you probably haven't let yourself to as much as someone who doesn't worry about it. With my first baby I gained 64 lbs and even though I didn't like being fat I wasn't that worried. Afterwards though, I had a rough time accepting all the damage I had done to myself. I had a 10 lb 3 oz baby as well and had alot of stretch marks. My boobs shrank to being smaller than they were before pregnancy and were mushy. And even tho I lost the weight my stomach skin has never been as tight as before. It looked ok standing up but would wrinkle when I sat down or layed on my side. The stretch marks faded and weren't noticeable except for some deep ones on my hips. But it was all due to me just eating and eating! It's been ten years since then and I work out alot, I got my body pretty toned and in shape, got breast implants and now I'm at the end of my second pregnancy and haven't gained too much, 26 lbs. No new stretch marks yet. But I'm older so I know my stomach skin is not going to be tight afterwards. And my boobs went up two cup sizes and are not fake-boob perky anymore.  I'm afraid I wrecked my 9,000 boob job. My cellulite is out of control - from my butt to my ankles! And I have melasma above my top lip and getting it on my cheeks too. The only thing we can do is be aware and try to keep the weight under control, wear sunscreen and make sure you wear a bra to help with sagging. It *****. We women sacrifice our bodie for these babies. Of course it's worth it but men don't have any idea how hard it is looking in the mirror and watching your body just fall apart!

[Court001]

I would say very normal! I am 32 weeks,ftm,and so used to being 125 and now I am 156, swelling and getting stretch marks on my hips and breasts. Then to hear all these moms tell me that I will never look as toned as before kids makes me very sad! I am happy to have a healthy growing girl in my belly, and going to work very hard after this pregnancy to get back to my previous body but not feeling very happy with myself right now that's for sure!!