dealing with death of a loved one while pregnant

[majiicmandles]

I lost my sister this morning. I've been crying off and on since I found out, can't seem to calm down, and I'm every stressed. I'm concerned about my baby... 12 weeks along, and I just need some advice please and thank you

[Shohna]

Its heartbreaking reading through what all you mummies have and are still suffering..cant imagine your heartache..my thoughts are with all of you..

[EvilBeauty_]

I Lost One Of My Plder Brothers When I Was Around 8w.. And Believe Me I Cried And Cried And Tried Not To Cause I Was Puttinq Stress On The Baby.
However I Tried To Act Like He Wasn't Gone, i Kinda Kept My Distance From Everyone Cause Him Beinq Brouqht Up Id Cry.. I Honestly Didn't Even Go To The Funeral... I Went Months Later To His Grave When I Had Calmed Down A lot, Cause AGAIN Your Puttinq Stress On Your Baby.
What I Did Was I Went Out To Stores Did A Lil Shoppinq For Myself, Went Out To Eat, Went To Baby Stores And Just Looked Around.. Looked Up Baby Names, It Really Did Help Me Not Focus On His Passinq. But Now I'm At 35W And I Can Talk About Him Without Cryinq . I Mean I Cry But Not As Bad . And On Top Of That, My Dauqhters Donor Had Decided To Bail And Have Nothinq To Do With Her. So I Was Freakinq Myself Out I Was Stressed I Couldn't Do Anythinq Or I Wouldn't Make It. But I've Made It This Far And I'll Have My Dauqhter In 2Weeks(;  Pray.... Cause The Lord Really Does Listen, And Like I Said Treat Yourself To New Hair Do Or Nails Done, Or Just Go Shoppinq Or Lookinq At Baby Things. Keep Your Mind On The Baby And Stay Positive, It's Hard As Hell Believe Me .... But You'll Be Ohkay And Everythinq Will Be Just Fine.
I'll Keep You In Mind Hun, And I'm Terribly Sorry For Your Loss.

[mrsmclearenjones]

When I had my daughter last year my dad died when I was 20 weeks. It was so hard. I can't say I'm over it today...and I'm pregnant again 12 weeks and 3 days...bringing back new stress

[Furby85]

This is just terrible. All I can say is I am soooo sorry for your loss. You will be in my prayers!

[nikkinoodles]

I know exactly how you feel to well! I'm 24 weeks pregnant with a baby boy my mum's first grandson and my mum is at the final stages of lung cancer her body is starting to shutdown she will never get to meet him and I'm devastated! I love her so much, I do have 2 daughters tho so I do have the comfort that she has been part of their lives but it doesn't make it any easier and the awful thing is it's going to get worse before it gets better but we have to be strong for our babies x

[eririv]

I'm really sorry for your loss. I'll keep you, your little one and your family in my prayers.

[briannaalovely]

I know exactly how you feel. Last month I lost my mother and it truly was the hardest thing I've ever went through & I was 27wks pregnant. I'm currently 31wks and so sad that my mom will never meet her first grandchild. Keeping myself calm was no easy task but I had very supportive family & boyfriend who kept my mind busy as much as possible. It won't be easy at first, I cried for week straight before I could get a hold over my emotions for my son but you've also gotta go through the grieving process too other wise you'll never feel better.

I truly am sorry for your loss and my heart breaks for you but just know that time heals all & it may not heal this but it will definitely get easier. Knowing I'll have my son soon is what has helped me so far & my dad. If you have a great family support system this will be a tough road but it won't last long.

I really am so truly sorry for your loss mama & I'm most definitely here if you wanna talk.

[damselfly7]

I'm so sorry you lost your sister. I understand what's it's like to lose a loved one while pregnant. I lost my mom 6 months ago. I only have 2 weeks until my baby is due. I can tell you it has been difficult emotionally. I have good days and bad days. Just make sure you have a good support system or just a friend you can go to when you need to talk to someone. I write down how I'm feeling at times and it can help. I wish everyday my mom was here. She was my best friend. I pray that you get through this. I know you will stay strong for your baby. Don't worry if you have to break down at times when you miss your sister. It will happen. If you feel like you need a councelor don't be afraid to talk to someone. My baby is doing great even though I have had bad days. If you need to talk there are people on here for you. I will pray for you and your baby. Hugs.

[Byrd02]

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[Byrd02]

Im so sorry for your lose... Prayers with you

[springblessings2014]

I'll be praying for you.  I'm so sorry to hear about your loss . I pray for you to have strength  and continue  on  . Try to be relax most of the times  . Remember that you got 2 more trimester the to go . Remember your sister with good memories  .  May God takes care of her soul  . I hope you pray to and stay relax and eat and drink some food,  don't stop talking Carr of ur two baby and you !!!! Big hug for you mami

[hannahbrumfield]

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[hannahbrumfield]

Loosing a family member while pregnant is very rough. I lost my brother a month ago at 30 weeks. It caused me to start having contractions because I wasn't sleeping and was stressed to the max. I've gone in for a check up since then and my doctor told me it's best for the baby to try your hardest to stay calm, stay rested and to eat right because it dies effect the baby when your body is stressed out. I'm very sorry for your loss. Good luck.

[Lilmummyems]

Im so sorry to hear your news i cant begin to imagine what its like to loose a sister. Despite what people say emotions and stress do not harm your baby. I know because my boyfriend passed away when I was 9 weeks pregnant with our second child and I've never been more upset hurt angry confused and lonely all at the same time. That baby is now 6 years old and she's fine. I know it's very hard for a while but do try to eat If your anything like me I lost my appetite and lost a lot of weight when I was supposed to be putting it on. Sorry to say time doesn't heal the pain but it does make it easier to live with.

[Elena2220]

I think your baby will be just fine you can't help your feelings anyone would be feeling the same and I am so sorry for your loss.  Not that this is even close but we had to put our dog down a week before I found out I was pregnant and I cried for weeks and I still do and my baby is just fine.  Just let it all out and I will put you and your family in my prayers.