first time mom in need of advice

[Mrs_Vega13]

I normally don't open up about my personal life but I'm hoping some good will come of this. I'll be 25 in august and I'm currently 27 weeks pregnant. It wasn't planned, but at first all were excited. Now we're nearing the due date and it seems all plans previously made are falling through. My boyfriend loves about 50 miles away from me and we both still love with our families. We had initially planned for him to transfer locations and move in with me and my family since we have a spare room for baby. Recently, my sister and him had a disagreement and he no longer wants to stick to our plan. He would prefer I pick up and move. The down side to that plan is his father is in and out of jail and the police raids are often. Also it would be the 3 of us in one room and moving in with him would mean losing my job. I'm not sure what to do. Any advice?

[toshey]

You definitely need to focus on you and baby.. if the father is not willing to sacrifice a little bit on both of your behalfs, then what can you expect for the rest of that child's life.. what is the better situation for that baby?? Sounds like you have a good place where you are, with a job, support, a place for the baby.. those things are most important. I think a father should do anything for their child,  as a mother would, and making changes for the BETTER, shows initiative..

[b4b]

It doesn't seem logical for you to move there.  Ask if he would feel safe with your baby in the house with his dad. Also point out that there are bound to be disagreements in a family, including his.  Is it possible for the two of you to get a place of your own?