family..visitors... oh my!!!!

[rachelcd1984]

Okay.. ftm and 37 weeks and way excited to meet our little man. I am typically a pretty quiet and home body type of person and don't like a lot of visitors/people around. Especially people I don't usually enjoy, inlaws, etc... my question is now... I know there will be A LOT of people wanting to visit once our boy is here and we'll be expected to visit family.. how do I prepare myself? I'm already dreading the first few months baby is born because I know everyone is gonna wanna hold and smother and just be around when really, I already do not want to see them.
He is not even born ywt and I am already stressing about more frequent visitors and stressing about people wanting to visit... how do I deal??

[mw89]

I am a very private person too.
I am not calling anyone after baby is born for at leaat a few days. I may not habe anyone over to see him for at least the first week either. With recent events I feel this is best for his and I relationship. So we need that bonding time undisturbed.
Just make sure you do what is comfortable for you and the baby. If people want to get upset because you tale the time to have quiet time that's their problem not yours. You will only have your newborn for a short time makw sure they are good memories.

[miri167]

You can ways set up visiting times and have family and friends ask u if it ok to come over before they do

[leslie_hailey]

same prob here...

[xcitednscaredmama]

I just visited a friend abroad for a couple of days who has a 4 year old and a new born. I thought she dealt with visitors very well. When she, the baby or her older boy needed time to themselves, she would just go to the bedroom and take a time out with them. She put her family first instead of visitors and I thought it was perfectly fine. If you have visitors, don't feel bad about and don't apologise when you need quiet time with the baby. They can wait or leave, but they should understand that you and baby come first. I also admired my friend for being able to tell people when it was time to leave, when it was just too much for her and the family. Everyone was very understanding and if they are funny about being "kicked out" well that's their problem.

[sorenr]

I hear you, my home is my quiet place, well I'm due my 4th baby in June so it's not really a quiet house, but I hate visitors. I make a (silent) vow to let everyone visit in the first few days after delivery, ideally before getting home. They can have all the cuddles they want at that time. After day 2 or 3 if baby is asleep, baby WILL NOT be disturbed by anyone. Ask people to visit early (however much you hate people visiting, you will want to show off your baby) and explain that you will then want some time at home with baby to get into a routine and settle in together. Ask that they call before visiting so that you can let them know if it is a good time and try to get as many people to visit at the same time so that it's not a constant stream.

If they're helpful people who will do your dishes, hoover or chuck some washing on, you might not mind seeing them as much as you think, but if they come only to poke at baby, be firm about when it is appropriate for them to visit. Good luck :)