feeling a bit ticked off (helpful advice requested) keep the bs to yourself

[Dakidd2512]

My sister and I are both expecting children I decided that I'd do my baby registry online because it's more convenient than going to a bunch of stores in this cold weather so when she asked me if I wanted to go with her i said ok u know as a way to do a some bonding with my sister.. Well she didn't have to come get me from home nor did she have to drop me off at home...but still had the nerve to ask for gas money for me going to the 2 stores with her and the audacity to cope an attitude when i told her no.. And i said no because i met her at her house and also had my own way home and my business could've been done via computer.. I asked her why in the hell would I give u gas money then i told her that she was trying to use me.. Things got a bit heated between us and extreme words were enchanged and now i feel bad for even trying to bond with her. She even reached out to our dad and made me seem like the only one at fault....Now don't get me wrong I've always taken responsibility for my own actions but this girl here just took the cake

[Dakidd2512]

That's what I'm saying

[mege26]

If I ask someone to come with u don't expect gas $. My friend and I are doing a mini vaca as we are both preg and 4 days apart. We will split gas and hotel... But yeah ur good.

[susamor]

I do believe you have to establish boundaries with sisters, or else they think they can treat you like dirt (well atleast in my experience). Once they see you won't put up with it, their tone and behavior may change. I try not to let my guard down about this. I've also had a meltdown with a sister and also saidII'm done. It is what it is. Now I just try to get along but only to the point where I avoid putting myself in situations where drama may be created.

[Dakidd2512]

I see now that she doesn't care so I'm done with her

[susamor]

Aw...no wonder you said you were trying to bond :( thats tough

[Dakidd2512]

N she had gas in her car already ***** was being spiteful

[Dakidd2512]

Not once did I say i was stressed

[Dakidd2512]

I've been cautious of her all our lives hence why i said something about bonding with her n advice was to make sure i didn't overreact about the situation because I ain't stressed by the least bit

[susamor]

Sounds like she didnt have gas money and was looking for an excuse to get it from you. Would you have given her gas money had she just been honest about being broke? Or driven your own car to these stores and given her a ride? Or is she not broke and just trying to take advantage of you? I know all about sister drama...it gets out of hand VERY quickly. Good luck, doesn't sound like you did something wrong.

[abbb01]

I don't see u need any advice u were in the right and I would've probly gotten pissed off too. And if ur dad understands what happened id say u don't need to stress anymore just be cautious of her seems like

[Dakidd2512]

Thanks ladies i really appreciate u guys help

[starresky]

If you would've asked to go and she had to come get you and drop you off then I could have understood her asking for the gas money... But the fact that she asked you to go means that she was to have it all under control... I have a younger sister and have asked her to go places with me with no charge... And when she needed to go somewhere if I needed has to make that trip I would let her know before everything else was confirmed... I could see that happening tho cause my sister is touched and she be feeling like the world owes her something... I think you handled it well... She will be alright...

[bookworm4992]

That *****,  but in my experience, some siblings are just too hard headed to see reason. I'd probably give it a couple days before u guys talk again. As long as dad knows the truth there's really nothing else that can be done.

[Dakidd2512]

That's exactly what i said to her u were going already no matter if i went or not and to top it all off SHE INVITED ME

[KristiGG]

I would never ask for gas money from a relative and then when it was to do a drive she was gonna do anyway...wow...sorry.

[Dakidd2512]

I was able to talk to my dad and explain everything to him he wasn't mad at me because after all i did at least make an effort to try with her he told me don't let it get under my skin but she really blew me

[singermomtobe]

Its one thing if you asked for a ride and offered her gas money, but that's just plain rude of her.

[brit333]

That's just weird she asked for money... I've never even asked Mr mom for gas money when we go places... Im surprised she didn't just ask you to drive lol... Were you able to tell your dad the other side of the story at least so it didn't look like you were the bad guy...  Sorry you had to deal with it but I don't think you were in the wrong for telling her no.