Early stages of labor and s/o being an a$$

[Lizzie_Campos]

So today I woke up with the worse back pain and cramping in the world! Nothing would help the pain and I didn't think it was contractions since it was just so constant. Called my Dr and he said to go into l&d to go get checked. Got there around 2 and they put me on the monitor and sure enough was contracting every 5 minutes or less. They checked me to see how far dilated I was and I was a 2-3. They told me depending on my progress I would stay or go . two hours later they checked me again and I was a full 3 so they told me they were gonna discharge me bc I wasn't making as much progress. They said I could have the baby today or in the next couple of days but that they didn't want me to spend my time in pain there , that it was better for me to be at home more comfortable. I'm 36 weeks 4 days so they can't stop it but they won't induce it so I'm screwed. And my s/o isn't even being supportive even tho I'm crying in pain. He has mother issues. His mom keeps calling him for favors and he rather do her stuff than mine. Today he was all mad BC he had to take his 18 year old bro to the social security office and I ruined his plans. I asked him if tomorrow we can go to the market and run errands and he said he can't bc he had to take his brother today but now he has to take him tomorrow.  That he needs to! I'm so mad!!! So if my water breaks or such I will be driving myself to l&d all by myself. Am I wrong to expect him to be there for me? I mean is his brothers social really more important than this?

[bonitagirl747]

I'm so sorry you're going through that, his family sounds inconsiderate if you ask me. He shouldn't be putting you on the back burner, especially right now! You sound like a very strong woman but you need him the most right now. I think you're being nice about it too, if it were me I think I'd call his mom and let her know his brother will need to find a different way of getting there in the nicest way possible lol. Good luck momma, I hope you're not in labor too long, your little bundle of joy will be here soon!!

[stacey261188]

You're very welcome, sometimes it's easier with someone you don't know. You're not alone :-) xx

[Lizzie_Campos]

No you didn't make me upset , you made me happy. That's the kind of support I need right now and I don't have from anyone at the moment.  Thank you so much!

[stacey261188]

I'm sorry I didn't mean to make you upset, but please please take whatever you need to get through this :-) will be keeping my fingers crossed for you and little one! Xx

[Lizzie_Campos]

Awww thank you! You almost made me cry! I will take your words and use them for strength! And as for him you're right.

[stacey261188]

Panic by all means - you're allowed too. Especially now. You are able too - and should put yourself first. You have 3children already this only proves my point about you being strong :-) you know you can do this! Don't waste (much needed) energy on your partner at the moment. Deal with him later. He'll soon realise his mistake. Probably too late, but he will. Hurry up baby Lizzie :-) xx

[Lizzie_Campos]

@ Tina that's exactly what I said!!! Thank you!!! I told him can't your brother take the bus? The social security admin is not even far away but none of his family likes to struggle so for that I have to pay the price smh.

[Lizzie_Campos]

@ Lexus I told him and said I needed him more then ever now but hr said i was being selfish bc he needs to do this for his brother and I need to understand. Smh. And about the hospital I know!! I couldn't even believe it! I'm so upset about it but I guess they're right. At least here Ill be more comfy and be able to help me induce more naturally.

[Lizzie_Campos]

@ Stacey thank you so much sweetie! I'm trying not to stress but its so hard. I'm in so much pain and already he will be working all morning and with his brother all afternoon. I have 3 kids if anything I know I'm gonna panic on my own. :(

[tinatheturtle]

Ooh I would be pissed. for him to put you and his child second is so wrong his brother is 18 basically a grown man already and he can't take the bus-_- and his mother should understand that u come first especially if ur dilating and having contractions.

[Lizzie_Campos]

I broke down crying Aruth. I couldn't believe how much of an a$$ he was being even when he was seeing how much pain I was in. He says I'm selfish! Smh. Thank you! I know I wasnt wrong! And yes the great thing is I'll be holding my love pretty soon! Only if my body would hurry up!! I'm in so Much pain!

[lexus3232]

Yea I would be pisst he needs to be close but u kno men are just dumb like that talk to him tell him u feel save if he is around ur very delicate right now!! Everything should hold and really hospital wont keep u wtf. Ur there u should walk alot tomorrow to help.gd luck hun ur there

[stacey261188]

Hey sweet, no you are not being out of line at all. You are in Labour! With HIS child. I'm so sorry you're going through this - granted he may be nervous about it being so close now but that doesn't excuse his behaviour. He can take his brother and still be able to take you and wherever you want or need to go. If he can't put you first he can at least put you at equal. Please don't get too stressed - not now you are a strong capable woman, with a baby on its way :-) you will manage. I pray you don't need to go this alone xx

[aruth]

Oh wow!! I'd be pissed if it was me! He definitely should be there for you! If he was military and deployed or something similar that's one thing, but this?? Nope! I'm mad for you! I'm sorry your going through that. On the bright side you get to hold your baby soon!!