Jealous ??

[Kristen_bel]

I'm 29 weeks right now and I just had my sister tell me that I always talk about myself and never ask her how she is doing..I didn't say to much back to her because I feel like she's going through some stuff..she hasn't had a job in about a year and still lives with my parents. Also she is a little over a year older then me. Me and my boyfriend have been making a lot of moves lately. He just got a new car, we bought a new bedroom set and dinning room table, we're moving into bigger apartment so I can start the baby room.. She has a boyfriend who is currently working also. I feel like she is getting stressed and thinks she should at least be on the same level as us..but it makes me mad that she says I talk about myself a lot. IM PREGNANT!! And also it was my bday yesterday..but now I just feel like I can't talk to her. I don't like feeling bad..I wish she would be more involved in my pregnancy but she's not..

[wyattsmom2015]

She sounds a bit selfish. You are doing good and have something to say about you, she's mad because she has nothing to tell people.

[karma20]

Its normal for siblings to feel jealous about what u have or they don't have! Maybe just try to start conversations off by asking her how she's doing, then when she's done go on to talk about the things going on with you. Usually being pregnant, people usually ask u first. But maybe she's feeling bad or like things aren't going the way she needs, maybe she just wants u to be there for her. But I don't know her.. so maybe she is just jealous and can't be happy for you!

[Kristen_bel]

Thank you ladies for you're comments. I really just want to ignore her and make her feel bad for saying that to me..but I'm going to be a mom soon. I don't need that extra stress and drama. I'm going to make an effort to figure out what's going on in her mind.

[Shohna]

My sister made comments that all i talked about was being pregnant when i was having my daughter..i remember it hurt and sayinb so to my mum..but after she was born..we were all having tea as a family and my daughter as babies do was entertaining us all..and she said what did we talk about before kylah was born..this made me realise she was important to my sister too..she has a little girl now and talks non stop about her..with your sister she may be jealous or she may just not think about babies etc yet..either way try n not let it get to you or affect your relationship too much :)

[RockRose]

Kristen, I don't know you so I have nothing to go on - but is what she said true?  

If it's true,  that you never ask about her and all you do is talk about yourself,  that's really good information to know.

I have a family member who only talks about herself,  and never in her life have I ever heard her ask anyone else how they are.  She doesn't brag,  it's not like that,  but she never ever asks anyone anything about themselves.  The conversation with her is totally one way.  She talks about herself,  and people ask her questions about what she is talking about, which is about herself.  She's not mean,  she's not arrogant or braggy,  she smiles sweetly and hardly ever says anything unkind but you can't interest her in anything except herself and her life.

So I'm wondering - is that what your sister sees in you?  When you think back can you remember a time recently when you asked her about herself,  and you asked a follow up question to keep the conversation going about her?  Do you do that,  in general,  with other friends?

[RockRose]

And what did you mean by your sister thinks she should "be on the same level as us"?

[hersheyma]

What she said could possibly be true, i have come to terms with it myself, everyone that calls me want me go hear all of their problems and i never get a chance to speak about anything going on with myself, so basically i hold everything in, i think you should understand and try to be there for her more, it's not about who has the most stuff, i have a friend who think everyone is jealous of her because she's a LPN, i swear i laugh on the inside like Chile please

[hersheyma]

Rockrose i understand completely what you're talking about

[ChrystalDH]

I have an older sister and we are close like you two, but she always hated when I would reach some milestone in life first, it's just normal that the older one should do things first. For example she actually got mad that I started having periods first. Maybe she is not so much jealous as she is sad that she isn't getting to be pregnant yet. She might just be kind of touchy about for some reason.

[aac1992]

I think just because your pregnant doesn't mean you should constantly talk about yourself. I am 36 weeks and my rule of thumb is if people want to know they will ask. I have another family member who is pregnant and all she does is talk about being pregnant on social network and how bad she feels and what not and many of my family members have said its annoying so I make sure not to do that kind of thing. Yes pregnancy is awesome and I love talking about my boy but I also realize not everyone wants to hear it. You may not even do that to your sister but it is just a thought

[Kristen_bel]

Wow. So thank you everyone for you're input! Me and my sister are only a year and a half apart and have been so close with each other. I did get to talk to her and she told me that she's not happy with the way things are going her way and apologized to me. I'm not the type of person that is selfish and just talks about myself..I'm just in an exciting time of my life but she also agrees and we're back to normal. Also I'm really happy I vented to all you on here and got so much feed back.