I just dont kno if he has tho, thats the thing! Dont kno if im just paranoid but I think he is thinking I kno something now! His on to me haha!
Wow I don't know if I could ever be so calm I would have had his clothes in the door by the time he got there. I feel like that's totally unacceptable I mean why do something like that to the one he loves and wants to spent the rest of his life with. He did it once he will do it twice!
Thanks everyone! Im still not sure how I feel about it all. Mixed emotions. Thanks for your input (:
First off am sorry you are going through this, I would be torn apart. I also think you should just confront him. I think he did it already, it doesnt take that long and I dont think there will be an email with appt date and time. He called her and set an appt, thats why he wanted a number. Am sorry but your going to drive yourself crazy, just confront him. You dont need this stress during your pregnacy. Am sorry momma hang in there, if something like this happened in
my marriage, and he went through with it I would be contemplating divorce. Best wishes to you ♥
I would confront him. But like so many others have stated you do have your proof. Try not to over stress yourself self as well its not good for you and your baby. Your children should come first before any man. And if you will continue to sleep with this man protect your self. I have gone through this stress with my mom and dad, and dad constantly doing these kinds of nonsense. Men who does things like these will continue to lie and do it even with your proof in their faces. It's not worth stressing your baby.
Maybe you can check the phone bill to see if he has had contact with that number.
I would be so hurt if I were in your shoes. I would pack up and stay at a friends or my mom's house. I think it is something that I could forgive but not before I had space to process it and make sure he knew he better step it up. You need time for yourself now. Its too stressful to keep wondering about all this!!! His actions are of a high school guy not a soon to be father.
Or which can be easily deleted from his logs rather*
Haha, thats a good one too, altho I must add that his search history on his phone have other "adult services" websites theres no date tho and this maia is the only email, but the other sites are numbers which are easily deleted
I came across a thread thru Google and someone in a similar situation had a comment that read "if your best friend, or your daughter, came up to you with this information, what would you say?"
I have a 3yo girl and this comment hit home. Im so torn.
Definitely not good for our baby either as Im not taking the best care of myself!
I would call happy endings lady. Ecplain that you and your partner have an open relationship. Be super nice. Tell her you want to pay for his visit as a suprise for his bday. Then after his "massage" when he goes to pay, she'll be like no your lady already paid for it it!!!
some questions you don't want to know the answers to. I'd just leave it be as well as him. honestly even with a kid in the picture, you don't need to be a martyr, if he's treating you badly which that is, it says a lot about you if you stay, be a good role model for your children what would you want them to do in that situation.
The truth is at the end of the day, if he has done it or goes ahead with it, I may not ever find out.
Tbh I cant believe I have either. I think to myself "why do I want him to go thru with it why do I want this hard evidence" do I want to have something against him? The scary thing is I really dont kno why. I honestly dont. Its becoming an obsession I think. I dont want him to go thru with it but I want evidence his done it. It doesnt make any sense to me. Its slowly messing me up not knowing either way and assuming the worst. Im saying evidence but when he isnt here or doesnt answer his phone I automatically think he is there and I go thru an enormous amount of pain. All over. Why am I doing this to myself?!
I also agree its not a deal breaker atm and I do need more proof but in saying that, u have to find these places, seek them out, its premeditated, It almost worse than "I was drunk and messed up and ran into an ex at the bar" this is however something he is planning, and in this last month while he is seeking out the right 'parlor' he is lying to me!
I Would confront him anyway.. even if he didn't actually go through with it, I think it's wrong that he was even thinking about doing it. Plus You read the emails.. You have prove that he was indeed thinking about it.
This is what I would do.. I wouldn't put up with that. Hope everything gets better for you.
I cant believe you have managed to keep this from him..think id be crazy though i would want definitive proof..I kno its easy to say you deserve better, leave etc..and from the sounds of it you are a strong woman and could manage alone..but i guess you have to think if it comes out n he denies it..would you trust him again..trust once gone is sooo hard to regain..i dont think its impossible..but its such a difficult situation..
It gives him the opportunity to flat out deny everything tho, and tell me he wasn't really going to go thru with it,
I have her addy phone no and email already off her website, I highly doubt they would give information out on any clients
I am In no way excusing his behavior but we do have a baby on the way I can't just throw around accusations and up and leave
I kno the thought is in his head, but will he do it? I will forever wonder if he even did it
Id deffinately be upset but uf hes not did it, and y can prrvent it.. With a child in the way that wouldnt be a deal breakrr ti me. Hes only seeked tthe information. No proof hes actually done it. Try to find more informatiin about the lady location cantact info and possibly call her to see about his possible booked appt
Confront him. Tell him the message was already on the screen, and thats how u sae it.
Yes! Deal breaker! It's Considered cheating. it's even worse that he is willing to pay for it. Honestley he probably has done this before and maybe you should get a STD test bc who knows what he has done.I'd just pack my or his stuff depending on who has the lease and then just leave. put the note on the table.
Meant to say just gone 28 weeks*