Dad to be

[jerrytz]

We, "my girlfriend and I" are nine weeks pregnant. Morning (all day) sickness is plaguing us. Emotions are unpredictable and are most time inconsolable. I am the  father to be and could definitely use some constructive feed back. ie. Methods in which to be a positive partner during aggressive mood changes, any actions that i should take during this time to make life easier on my partner, and any other information pertinent to this beautiful, and amazingly stressful time. Thank you very much for your time and response.

[bridget_ledwaba]

Ur woman is very lucky to have you and congratulations to you guys you seem like a genuinely good guy be patient and know that in the end it will all be worth it.

[sassymommy88]

Do unexpected acts of kindness... get her some flowers randomly or clean up the house...with the anger.. she has got to figure out how to manage it herself by stepping back or taking a "time out" and realizing im hormonal.. I need to relax.. but also.. if she is trying to correct you on something just take it.. and say "ok sweety" :)... oh! go on walks with her.. she needs to stay active and this way maybe you guys can have some time to just small talk with out a bunch of interruptions...and then it will also help keep her relaxed also! :)

[Sofronia]

Congrats Dad to be! Its sweet that you want to support her so much :) The ladies on here have some very good advice for you, and I'm going to throw in another peice of advice:
Many men who are involved in their partners pregnancies can start feeling overwhelmed emotionally, totally cool and normal. Make sure you take care of yourself (balanced diet, rest, and moderate exercise) because if you stay healthy you will be better equiped to help her and your little baby healthy :)
If silly arguing starts getting in the way of constructive conversations or just nice happy moments take a step back and cool off. I'm sure you are probably already doing this, but make sure you tell her you want to support her every day. (Pregnancy brain will make us forget what we ate five minutes ago, say nothing about what our guys said three months ago)
Congrats again! And if you need more help/suggestions/just want to get excited about being a dad(!) Post more!

[shastas84]

First thing: congrats! Second: it's nice to see a dad on here. Third: to the emotional roller coaster. While most of the time I find it sweet that my hubby says "we are pregnant" not when I am already having a bad moment. We are not throwing up, or on bed rest. So I would hold off on the we right then. The other thing is not to point out it's her hormones. Agree with her and duck. She loves you. Just remember that. Let her rant and then hug her when it's over. Good luck

[Desi1121]

Bite your tongue and let her rant.

[jerrytz]

Thank you for the prompt feedback, i appreciate it. I understand and am doing all i can do as far as making her physical needs easier. But the arguing over what seems to be superficial  topics is an everyday occurrence. I try to diffuse the arguments, some times it works but the majority of the times it doesn't and i find myself participating fully and wondering why, again and again.  Don't or can't walk away. Is there a count to ten method? I'm not asking for a miracle, but is there a way to diffuse an expecting mother during a rant?

[cnj76]

Just a few things I've dealt with personally... If she feels like crying, instead of getting annoyed or frustrated that she is crying, just "try" to console her. Tell her she's doing an amazing job growing a sweet baby. If she wants to argue, just kind of keep your cool. The hormones are everywhere during pregnancy. Doesn't mean sit back and just take it all, but to be careful. Arguments seem to heat up pretty quickly during pregnancy. (That's just how it was during MY pregnancies). Help move things if she wants it moved. You know, the little things. Basically, just do what you'd normally do to help her and you should be fine :)

[babygirl0519]

Best thing you can do is not take the emotional rollercoaster personal. Remember she is not in her normal state of being. Sometimes she may just need you listen and not try to fix things for her. Let her know u love her as nd support her and u will be there.