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[RayDayle]

A few weeks ago I met a man who swept me off my feet.. I found out I'm pregnant and I told him and he let me know he is married.  Now he is trying to tell me how an abortion could be the right path is goes against everything I believe in .. do I just ask him to leave me alone or tell him he has to deal with it?? I'm struggling with all of it?

[deman26]

U wear dis shoes and only u understand d whole situation best!don't be in a rush 2 make decisions!be honest with ur self and have the fear of God.am a product of a single mother, my dear it *****!several times I wish I wasn't in it but I can't change it..all I did to seek God and i concluded dat if he didn't want me alive he would have killed me nor made it easy 4 my mom to get rid of me.he didn't harm me bcos he want me to live my life and make a change.my mom was alwz transferring my father's aggression on me, she said lots of tins she shouldn't have said,a times I wonder if shes ma mom.well I can't even remember all bcos I have 4 given her.she mean so much to me and I love her dearly! She's next to ma God.most times she will tell me not to live her life that she never wish dat 4 me.i took to all she said! It took me tym getting a man dat will love me dearly.and today we are toghter expecting our 1st fruit.it worth d wait! It worth sharing dis sweey/sour moment with the man u had fun with.with prayers my dear! Patience and time are 2 most powerful worries we will over come.

[chocoyo]

is an abortion is what you do not believe in then don't do it because later on in life you will regret it I had one and I regret it so much even until this day if he doesn't want nothing to do with this that's his business he knew what he was getting himself into when he was with you but the choice is up to you

[tip30]

I been in this situation before my son daddy is married I told him I was pregnant he also push the issue about abortion I kept my son it was not easy he  wanted nothing to do with me he even change his #on me. Me and his wife kept get into but it was all worth the pain tears and hurt cause my son meant more to me then he did.My son is 8now and he's a great father  to our son and his wife too it's nothing she wouldn't do for  him. So I say to u keep your baby

[aaharmony]

Are you up for raising a baby alone? Because this guy isn't going to be there for you. If he wants you to get an abortion that's your answer from him, he's not going to help you. He sounds like a bum. Don't abort the baby, but if you don't want to raise the baby alone you have the option for adoption. Don't punish the baby. There are so many people who want a baby and adoption is their only option.
I'm so sorry he isn't he man you thought he was. I really am sorry you're going through this. I hope you have some family/friend support.

[DeeTLJ1984]

I would do what you feel is best. I'm able to talk about this now but never before. I have had an abortion (early early) because I was to young, dumb and had been raped prior to this. So I was scared because we were not married but....he was separated from his wife (filed for divorce)! A few years later after it all was said in done. We ended up pregnant and I've never been so in love with my own lil man. Who is now 7 years old. Well his dad didn't stay, and we never married. My thing is I didn't have a baby to keep a man, nor do I want to be with someone and be miserable. When I can be a single woman & mother and be happy; just the two of us!!! He has nothing to do with his son either!

With all that I had gone through and thought I would never find my one true love...I had himin my life since I was 17 now 30 and he's a great father to his a lot older children, my son, and now 35 weeks pregnant and having a little man...doing it all over again.
So you do what YOU FEEL is right! Who cares how he feels or anyone else for that matter! Although it's not easy...by far....it's so worth it!!! Good luck Doll! :-):-):-)

[bump2015]

If termination is not an option for you, for any given reason, don't do it. After that it's up to you what you do. If you want him in your and your child's life, keep in mind what he'll be losing (not trying to be in his corner, he cheated on his wife and lied to you), you have every right to press him for support, just consult a lawyer. But then, do you really want that kind of man in your life? He'd be the example to your child of what a man should be...
Adoption is another option, personally I feel that would be harder than an abortion, but that's me. Good luck to you. And be certain to get familiar with your legal rights.

[Nikki4289]

This is a difficult subject to deal/talk about.  I say follow your heart.  You do need to realize that this life is gonna be hard for you and your child of you decide to keep it. My mother is a product of an affair and I've had to see her struggle in life with countless mental problems due to the fact her father told her he never wanted her.  Just know it won't be easy. Beb prepared to be a single mom.  He can always sign his rights over. Good luck dear. ♡ ♡ ♡ :)

[aliliffers111]

I would tell him he has to give you child support.  If you don't feel ok with an abortion dont do it. You'll never forgive yourself if you do. But for sure get child support weather he wants it or not he is the father. Now, if you dont want him in any way near your child tell him to go to hell.

[Shohna]

Oh sweetie :( do what is right for you..i am a single mum and it can be tough..but its more than possible..if you feel you should terminate I believe that is your choice..but don't let anybody force you to do anything you don't want..thinking of you