feeling really alone while pregnant

[shamikia_]

My bf and I live together with his mom who's normally sweet as pie but since we've told her about the pregnancy she seems uninterested idk if it's just me but I feel the difference,all my friends and family are in N.Y. (that's where i'm from ) and my bf works a lot (t.v/film industry) so he travels a lot and works 17 18 hr days sometimes and when he comes home he sleeps and then catches up on more work via emails and I feel he squeezes me in when he can he's a good guy but I don't think he really understands how I feel. When we told his mom he was recording it and the first thing she said was ummmmmm you should be married first and then she said omg with a smile that I didn't think was authentic and since then i've been feeling really down especially since he's not here most of the time, when we told my mom at home she was totally excited and congratulated the both of us and didn't put any pressure on him. I've enrolled myself in school lcb Atlanta (le cordon bleu) been there for 3 months now, but I feel like giving up and just moving back to N.Y. with my mother i'm 31 yrs old and I feel like this is an appropriate age to be pregnant plus it's my first. Sorry for the long story but I feel that at least I can t talk to other women who can give me advice.  Thanks ladies god bless

[Amy1830]

Feeling alone is horrible. I've felt that way too. I'm 35 weeks. My fiancé hasn't shown alot of interest in my pregnancy even though it was planned and for the last 9 months it has taken a back seat to whatever is going on with him. It's frustrating and sad. Because we are hormonal and need more attention than normal. Plus we are doing a job that's not always pleasant but is for the benefit of the family. And men don't always see it that way or appreciate how difficult it is for us. My fiancé had a seasonal business and its crazy busy from April to July so he leaves before I wake up and comes home at 9 or
10 pm and eats, showers, complains about work and falls asleep. I know he can't help it but i feel very alone. I felt alone before April too, because he just isn't the compassionate understanding type and is always pushing himself to overachieve and makes tons of projects for himself that I couldn't physically do with him. Now he is going away to Cancun Mexico on a trip I was supposed to go on and even tho I got the ok from the dr he won't let me go and is going to leave when I'm 37 weeks pregnant. That makes me feel even more alone. I honestly don't have any words to make you feel better because it doesn't make me feel better when people say oh men are different, they think they're helping by providing, or maybe your hormones are making you feel this way. Maybe all that is true, but it doesn't help to know that. The only thing that would help is for them to suddenly want to participate more and be there for us and unfortunately, they probably won't be. At least in my case. Idk how far along you are. Maybe if its still early your guy will come around. But I'm almost done and mine has been a crappy partner this entire time. Good guy. Hard worker. But crappy support giver. As far as your mother in law, I think she is going to fall in love when you have that baby and she is going to go right back to sweet as a pie again. You should be proud of starting school too! Don't give up. Pregnancy had a way of making women feel isolated. But once your baby is here you will feel alot better and I'm sure you will make tons of friends at school as time goes on. I'm from NY too btw :)

[MrsGreenEyes27]

Kennesaw Georgia..

[MrsGreenEyes27]

How old is he? He should have his own place by now especially with a baby comming. Otherwise when the baby comes your going to have his.mom up your butt and telling you what's right and not right. I'd either tell him you both need your own place or I'd move back. Im from NY and I moved to me nesaw ga a few yes back I hated it and left and moved back within. A yr. You can go to school here ..

[sew2009]

Don't give up on your schooling! His mom may have a hard time showing emotion? Give it time. My in-laws didn't react the way I thought grandparents should. This is our third and the first response was another one already? But that's just them. That's just how they are. They don't mean anything by it. When pregnant I tend to take stuff a lot more personal. My folks on the other hand were thrilled! :-) communicate with your man will help a lot! Congrats! :-)

[expecting6thbaby]

Talk to him and if he don't get it there is nothing wrong with going home to your mom. You need to do what is right for you and the baby.. but try to give the man a chance he might be as happy as you just be processing the responsibility of a baby. Women and men process different.... he may thing y'all are processing the same and may not know how you feel. Let him know what you are thinking...good luck and congrats.

[tiffp84]

He can't read your mind tell him how you feel. It ***** when the men have to work so much. My husband stresses every time I get pregnant and feels like he has to work a ton lol he doesn't we're fine he just can't help himself and I hate it because I feel very needy lol but once I have the baby he calms down and spends as much time with us as possible.And as for his mom once she sees the baby she's going to be in love.