Just be honest

[babygurl2609]

My baby dad lied to me about talking to another girl, the girl he sleep with right before we got together. I read his message on Facebook, and he told her stuff that he doesn't even talk to me about. Can I have some feedback. Do you all  think  I'm overreacting. I told him I didn't mind if he talk to her..But when I
asked if he talked to her he said no. Why else would he lie when I told him he could. Any comments would be great

[MamaMacMurtry]

My ex used to lie about talking to his female friends all the time-and pretty much everything else he could think of to lie about. It turned out, its a compulsion for him that relates back to his PTSD from a tour in Afghanistan. It ended our relationship either way. I couldn't stop wondering what other things he was lieing about & if you can't trust the person you're with, love won't be enough to hold you together. I say talk to him about it & see what he has to say. If you get the impression he's hiding things, chances are he is.

[keaij]

Well if you both agreed not to talk to any past people or others outside the relationship than yes he should of been honest, but maybe he coupd see her as just a friend and they talk. I had a guy friebd who became my best friend and his girlfriend was very insecure and I live in a different state.

See what the status of them are, if their just friends and no sex I`d say dont sweat it, but if he sees her in person I`d worry a little.

[KieaRai]

If you told him that you don't mind then he shouldn't have lied. My husband talks to other women and I talk to other men. Most of them are people we knew a long time before getting together. It's great being with someone but sometimes you need others to talk to and that's where having friends comes in. Jealousy isn't pretty and showing any in a relationship means you've got some unresolved insecurities that need addressing. I'd never tell my husband to stop talking to others just because I don't like it. I may ask the other women to back off if I feel they're getting too chummy but my hubby does a pretty good job of that on his own.
in your case, and I have no idea what his messages said so I ciuld be wrong, maybe he was confiding in her bc he didn't know how to talk to you about it? My hubby talks to his best girl friend before me sometimes to get advice on how he should bring a subject up to me. Either way, he still shouldn't have lied so that needs  to be addressed but try not to think the worst right away.

[FirstMommy06]

I just had this expierence. Except he was messaging a girl she was hot and what not. The way I see it. If he loved me like he says he does then theres no need to text other females and also it may not be cheating but the thought was there. Why message anotjer girl..Im right here..

[mitch_14]

Seems like a silly thing to lie about if he has nothing else to hide