is it ever going to happen again...

[babysept2014]

So it seems my husband an I are never gonna have sex again. We haven't done anything since baby was conceived in DEC!! Its not been for the lack of my trying either.. he just never seems to want anymore.. a lot of times when we have the chance we are both just ready for bed but other times when I try to get things going I just end up disappointed again. We have a toddler so time is limited most often. I've gotten to the point where I'm tired of being let down that I don't even try anymore, figure he'll let me know when he's ready. Makes me feel unwanted.
Sorry just needed to get off my chest.

[Nathalysofly]

Yea try it , it cant get worse then it is now. Also try giving him a massage and have him massage you that might get him in the mood. If that doesn't work idk what will..lol but  good luck!

[babysept2014]

He says it cause I'm always saying my back or whatever hurts.. an yeah it does but that doesn't mean we can't do anything for a bit.. Idk if its the fact he doesn't want to make me hurt anymore than I am or just using it as an excuse.. if we waited til I wasn't hurting at all from something... well that would be like a month after baby is born!
And it doesn't help that he doesn't know how to show/express emotions at all!! We've has several fights about that over the years an its like he forgets that I need more communication about some things. Drives me insane.
Maybe I'll tell him I'm getting a vibrator an see what happens then. Lol

[babysept2014]

He says it cause I'm always saying my back or whatever hurts.. an yeah it does but that doesn't mean we can't do anything for a bit.. Idk if its the fact he doesn't want to make me hurt anymore than I am or just using it as an excuse.. if we waited til I wasn't hurting at all from something... well that would be like a month after baby is born!
And it doesn't help that he doesn't know how to show/express emotions at all!! We've has several fights about that over the years an its like he forgets that I need more communication about some things. Drives me insane.
Maybe I'll tell him I'm getting a vibrator an see what happens then. Lol

[Nathalysofly]

Get a vibrator,  i know sounds weird but use it in front of him. Once he see hes not needed and your getting what you want without him. he'll want to join in your fun.trust me i was having same problem till i asked my friends crying and they come up with this and it worked!!. Now im the one telling him no.lol good luck and don't feel sad i bet your a beautiful and smart women. He just needs a little reminder of your sexxy side.

[mitch_14]

Have you tried talking to him about it?

[junebaby25]

I'm in the same boat, I feel like I'm at a point where I'm just embarrassing myself trying to get him in the mood only to be rejected. He literally turns his head when I go in to kiss him and takes my hands away when I try to rub him to get him aroused. I give up also, idk what else to do. Talking to him didn't do anything, pouting, arguing, crying gets be nowhere so idk what's left to do?

[kcwayman]

Talk to him and tell him how you feel. He could have low testosterone its common and easy to fix. Have him go get blood work done for it. A special deoderant can fix it. My ex had this problem. It is dangerous to his health to have low testosterone also.