feeling guilty

[LoriBee]

Lately I've been feeling guilty that I'm not making such a big deal out of this pregnancy as I did with my son.  No one is really.  

I'm happy to be pregnant but I feel like I'm not trying to make it as special as my first.  I'm not even excited to tell people. With my son I was dying to tell everyone this time I'm like  Meh it can wait.

Our families and a few friends know that's about it.  

With my son my mom threw me a shower and my mother in law threw me a welcome party and I know for sure  i'm not having a shower and i'm not sure about the welcome party.  

I guess I feel bad and then I feel stupid for feeling bad

[LoriBee]

I still feel like I should do something special for this baby.  I want to celebrate my family growing.  I just don't know what to do

[CeeCee784]

This will be #3 for me and I feel the EXACT same way...I'm just over it!

[LoriBee]

That's good then I don't feel like so much of an a**hole lol

[keaij]

I feel the same about this pregnancy, I dont even want a baby shower. I just brought all the stuff myself, and moved on lol. I dont think thats not normal.

[LoriBee]

Thanks for sharing your experiences ladies in terms of what i'm having this time gender wise I have no idea and celebration wise probaby nothing major.  We only do one baby shower and even if we did 2 it wouldn't make sense because my son isn't even 2 yet.  

I know I will feel different when the baby comes but for now I'm really bummed out.  I feel like I'm not doing anything to celebrate this child and that makes me really sad.

I'm also thinking about the lack of sleep and the general feeling like crap when you have a new baby.  I've been very lucky with my son. He's been sleeping the whole night since he was 6w old.  I'm afraid to have a psycho colicy that never sleeps lol

I'm glad I'm not alone.

[Amy1830]

I'm not that excited either to be honest. I planned this pregnancy with my fiancé but I already have a 9 year old son and was happy being a mother to 1 child. But I knew I might end up with someone who didn't have any children of their own so I was open to having one more. So that's what we did and now I'm happy but I keep thinking about how I have to start all over and in a few months I'm going to be exhausted and attached at the hip to a baby and have no freedom at all. I think once we have the babies we will feel differently though. Because my situation when I was pregnant with my son was really bad and my pregnancy was misery but when I finally had him I was beyond happy and love him more than life itself.

[mommybrandyozuna]

Feeling the same way just wish time would go by faster so I'm not pregnant anymore it's been making me feel bad cause with my daughter I was so excited and sat and rubbed my belly and this one I just don't care that much and cried when I bought maternity clothes and it's a girl again my hubby wanted to try for a boy and I just knew it would be a girl and not I'm done this is the last one I will not be fooled again!  I don't feel that my peeps r that excited and I'm just doing this all again and time couldn't be going any slower I think the only one excited is my daughter who is almost 4 and wanted a Lil sister so bad! Another reason I tried for a baby! I hope our feelings change and I know once our babies r here we will love them! *sorry to go on and on but I thought I was the only one*

[dannyzgirl]

What r u having this time ?