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[cfbaby]

I am currently 18 weeks along.  My husband and I got pregnant fast after getting married and we weren't really trying.  We are super excited!   However I am struggling with one of my dear friends.  she has had many miscarriages and the last one was a few weeks before we found out we were expecting.  we used to spend a lot of time together and since we told her after our first appointment at 9 weeks I have only seen her twice both times only to eat.  She avoids me.  I know she is dealing with her own stuff and is difficult for her I just miss my friend.  I heard from a mutual friend that she is now in counceling.  I know I need to wait it out until shes ready but anyone else ever deal with this?  Anything I can do to help her heal?

[mountainbreezy]

Hi I under stand  your feeling. I'm 21 weeks and my best friend has had 3 miscarrages and would love to have more babies but knows that she can't. I cried when I told her I was pregnant because I felt so guilty. I was just honest with her and let her know I was sorry that it could hurt her. I told her I was ok with however she felt I would understand if she was jealous or upset. I've lost a baby too so I know how that feels. she needed some time and I gave her space but let her know that I was still there for her and would do whatever I could to help her deal with her feelings. good luck

[chally55]

Wow that must be hard!! I say just wait patiently for her..the best thing u can give her now is space. Eventually she'll miss you..and then of course all she'll need will be a listening ear.. But now just let her be...