mother in law

[Lozza04]

okay girls need some advice... my bfs has two moms. long complicated story but basically his real mom was 14 when she had him so he was brought up believeing his grandmother was his mom and his real mom was his sister!! crazy i know but he wad told years ago the truth and long story short they have moved on from it but there is still a bit of confusion there.

we are expecting a baby due feb next year and i am sooo worried about having two mother in laws to please and pamper too they are such hard work, so controlling over my bf. lord help me. how do u deal with troublesome mother in laws??? i also dont want my child to be so confused and too be lied too like my poor bf was as i can see the affect its had on him. :-/

[Sarah765]

Just give them seperate names, my oldest is 6 andits still confusing for her to understand that her gg is her great grandmother, not her grandma, so no matter what it will probably be confusing to them.  Its not really the same thing as what your bf went through.  Its your child so of course its ok to be completely honest with your baby, but all they are going to realize for a while is that they have lots of people that love them.  

[shastas84]

No problem :) glad it helped

[Lozza04]

thats a brill idea didnt think about the different names. thanks so much. cant talk about this to my bf he thinks i have a vendetta against his family.. its just so complicated. thanks huni

[shastas84]

It's not silly. I have to be very direct with mine. It's your baby. Not theirs. Its up to you & your bf how to raise him/her. And if yours is like mine that battle will begin the minute that you break the news. As for the confusion about who is who. Try giving them both a nickname. Like Nana and gammy. Or whatever works for everyone. That way who is grandma and who is great grandma never comes into play.

[Lozza04]

sounds silly but i dont want to be confused saying 'now go get a cuddle from granny' when its his great granny. i just dont want our baby to go through what my bf went though. it messed him up. :'( sorry emosh

[Lozza04]

sounds silly but i dont want to be confused saying 'now go get a cuddle from granny' when its his great granny. i just dont want our baby to go through what my bf went though. it messed him up. :'( sorry emosh

[Lozza04]

same issue with me except the cord is tied between three people. just think its gonna get so worse when we spill the beans that we are expecting. i seriously dont think i'll be able to handle them both :-/ love my bf too bits and will put up with it for him. but do u think its wrong if i lay it out straight to them b4 baby is born that i dont want our child caught up in the lies and confusion

[shastas84]

I have a super controlling mil. I have been trying to cut the umbilical cord between her and my hubby for 4 years. I stay away from her as much as possible. I limit the amount of contact between us and the type. (More over the phone less face time) good luck!