physical fights with my husband

[DynamiteLady]

I am 5 months pregnant and I've been married for 5years. This is our first baby. We have been trying since our first year of marriage. Generally we argue a lot but sometimes our arguments have gotten physical. However since I've been pregnant my husband has attempted to get physical with me twice!! At this point I feel threatened by him.
I'm at a dilemma where I don't know whether to call the marriage quits
Please help!

[DynamiteLady]

Thank you Moms xx

[shysmom87]

Im proud of u for making that decision its a hard choice to make. Be proud of yourself and strong! Youcan do this!

[MrsMonahan]

Well done for being so brave, it takes a strong woman to walk away from that situation. I hope you get treated better in future :)  

[DynamiteLady]

Thank you all for ur advixe
I have decided to get professional help and I've moved back to my family in the meantime

[Newmummy657]

I think you both need to seek help, physical violence is not normal. And you do not want to bring your child into a relationship that has violence in it!!

You obviously love each other so please please get some help!!!!

[Angelina19900]

Girl forget trying to work it out. If hes willing to hit you carrying he's child he aint ****. No women deserves to get hit!  point blank espically that your pregnant. Not only is he putting you in danger but your child!

[MrsMonahan]

I would go and seek help from a woman's shelter, even if your not going to leave him they can give you advice and support. In the UK the midwife even asks about abusive relationships when she does her home check. If he is physically or mentally abusing you ( as what you have described sounds like) then you need to think about leaving. Even if you leave just to get some space and then come back together during counselling. If you stay there is the problem that it could get worse and he could hit you and you could loose your baby. Fighting in any relationship is a sign that things are not right and he should be supporting you now, not causing you anguish.  

[DynamiteLady]

Thank u all....we sought counselling from our pastor but they keep telling us to pray and work at building this home.
In d process of doing it, I have lost love, patience and energy in this marriage and with the pregnancy I have never felt so alone and I'm feeling more irritable by him by the day

[destinyluv01]

Me and my Significant Other fought a lot with my first daughter. It got so bad we both went to jail. The authorities threatened to take her away so we stopped. Before that it got really ugly though. But yeah only punks hit woman, pregnant woman at that.

[Ddmommy3]

He sounds like my ex. I left him because I realized he would never stop being physical. He put his knee in my stomach while I was pregnant with our daughter.  You'll have an I'm leaving moment. I just hope it's before things really escalate. My final straw was in the car on his bday he beat me. My face was awful for weeks. I moved 2 months later. I hope you go before it's out of control.  I'll say what my pastor told me "you deserve greater." You really do. I'll say life has changed for the better and I have peace.

[HanEli1980]

You may want to have the discussion in a public place. Not safe for you or baby.

[MrsHope]

I think its time to sit down with hubby and discuss counseling options in regards to dealing expressing emotions during this tough time. Is this something normal in your relationship?  Remember,  your baby feels your stress so try to take it easy. My husband used to argue a lot during our first pregnancy so I understand the stressors or adding to your family but physical can lead to the wrong results quick.

[MrsHat1289]

Plus If he has a tempor and puts his hands on u, how do u think he would treat a screaming baby or nagging toddler.  Stress will get worse with a child in the house. And there safety should be ur first priority. Def get help, maybe even giving him space would make him realize what he has n get his act together.

[LucyMarie1991]

At the very least you both need to get help. What are you going to.do.if things get really bad and your baby is hurt or killed as a result?