need advice

[ctberalmu]

So, I just argued with my husband and need to vent! His family is visiting us for New Year's Eve, but since they are broke, we have to buy the tickets for them. My husband was mad at me cause I haven't bought them by now, says he told me last week and that I forgot, and that's my fault. I just went to buy the tickets online and they cost 900$!! It's just too expensive, and honestly I don't want to pay that much. I get he wants to be with his family for New Year's Eve but I wish I just didn't have to pay for it!

So now I'm crying my heart out cause I feel like a mean b***ch for not wanting to pay for the tickets, I feel it's my fault, and that I hurt my man with all this.

[MommyMom2014]

Wow, too bad so sad if they're broke and can't afford to visit. I'd love a free vacation, too, but asking you to pay for it is insane. I don't know their situation, but most people are broke because the spend all of their money, not because they don't have any to begin with. And I agree with the previous person, airfare would have been expensive last week, too. If your husband is set on paying for their visit I'd definitely consider train or bus. I'm sorry you have to go through this situation! Hopefully they are the kind of people who will be thankful for any help you have to offer and not just take you for granted.

[koyama83]

Don't feel bad. That's a lot of money. It depends on the family's culture. If you are all individualists then it would be looked down on for a family member to pay for another but in collectivist cultures families cover each other in all things. My mom's side is Native American and collectivist and my dads is white and individualist...but my late boyfriend's whole family was NA and collectivist and they'd pay for our travel and we'd pay for theirs and buy his mom special food and things and it made me feel warm and fuzzy...maybe his family will cover you to bring the new baby to meet them or something? Don't stress, just calmly explain your feelings to your husband.

[ctberalmu]

Thanks ladies I really appreciate your support. I'll try talking to all of them, see if we can agree on something so everybody is happy.

[ShanLori]

How about he fly there or both of you? What about a road trip?

[3rdNdone]

That is tough especially if it was something  that he requested that you both didn't communicate about. I don't think you are selfish but a conversation needs to be had. Hope all works out.

[miracle_mommy2014]

why cant they pay for their own tickets....if they want to come its not your responsibility to make sure they get there...if they cant afford it that s u c k s for them then they cant go....thats money you guys could be using for your baby....gosh im sorry i would freak out if i were you lol

[nonishy]

Tickets would have been expensive either way, even if you book in advance, holidays,  weekends, alwayse expensive. Take it from me, I use to travel a lot. Plus,  maybe check out expedia or Google cheap plane tickets and check out those sites that come up.
Maybe discuss train or bus tickets.  Because 900 dollars are expensive and you can use that money for baby stuff which is very important.  
Family is important too, but why visit if your broke. People need to do their part too and save for trips, it's not your responsibility to pay for everything.  

[norahbee3]

I'm sorry but it's not your fault they are broke?! They know u are having a kid..what kind of people would let you pay that much with a kid on the way?! I would have lost it too!! I understand your husband wants to see his family but maybe do it a more convenient time especially since u gotta pay..i love seeing my family too but they know I have a third kid on the way..they would never put me through that!! Gah I'm mad for you..you got me all fired up now :p kidding but I understand and I'm frustrated with that whole scenario

[SoccerMom2009]

Aw :( don't get so down on yourself. You're human. Make mistakes like everyone else. Just Apologize to him. He'll understand. Hopefully you can enjoy their visit and all be worth it. :)