please dont judge.. really need support

[proudmommy619]

I had recently found out i am pregnant...i am excited dont get me wrong...but i am fearful because i had recently lost my 4 month old a couple of months ago...we were not planing on trying for a wile but god gave us a miracle...so what i am asking is...is there any other mothers who have gone threw akmost the same thing or know someone who has....how do you get threw it and how do u find the strenght....please adoption an abortion is out of the question would not even give it that thought althought some family members have suggested it...please help..i am happy but very scared

[ABCDjE]

I can't imagine going through something like that!!! I'm uncles baby died of SIDS when he was 3 months old! It is the worst thing that can happen to a person!! I had a miscarriage in Feb. And ended up pregnant in may....I didn't even know I eras pregnant until august!! I look at is a my miracle baby...I was told that I wouldn't be able to have anymore kids! I know that it must be hard still grieving for the loss of your baby but just look at is as god giving him back to ypu !!!

[Shohna]

I have a friend who lost her baby boy at 6 weeks old..i dont think its something you ever get over..but she started counselling and found that it did help..she saw a physcotherapist i think..three years later she was pregnant again and when she found out it was a boy she broke her heart..she thought she was replacing him..this was a full three years later..what you are experiencing is so soon..no wonder you are so scared..it sounds like a bit of a pointless thing counselling..like how will that help you get over the loss of your little one...but it does sound like you need some help hunni..this is the worst nightmare for any parent to have to go thriugh...my heart goes out to you..

[wyattsmom2015]

Facing the loss of a child is one of the worst feelings and I could not imagine losing a four month old baby. I never could understand how parents especially a mother could cope and move on from a loss of a baby to sids. My best advise is to not think about what you could be losing but what you have the opportunity to have. You had four months with a perfect and very special individual, your baby. Now, you have the opportunity to share all the love you have with another child. I had a 1 year old when I got pregnant with my second. She turned two the day after I had my second baby and eight days later my first baby was dx with cancer and given less than a fifteen percent chance of surviving treatment. They was sure she would not make it and it was hard showing my second child the love knowing I could lose my first and the pain I was going through. I also feared losing my second.

You have to look at it differently.

[traciv]

A friend of mine lost her 6 week old to SIDS years ago. It was devestating. She quickly became pregnant again and had her rainbow baby. Of course it never fixed or dulled her pain. Her rainbow baby was perfectly healthy. My friend funneled much of her energy into creating a non profit organization to brining SIDS awareness and helping other mothers with Angel Babies. I can't imagine losing my child that I brought into this world. I miscarried in January of 2011 and it almost killed me. I gave birth to my own rainbow baby in December 2011. You will be in my thoughts darling. Good luck.

[melinda2_15]

Everything will be ok. There is nothing like the feeling of a parent losing a child. Keep ur head up and stay strong. Everthing will be fine and the baby will grow and be the light of ur life everything u expected and much more. God wouldnt put u throw something he knows u cant handle.

[proudmommy619]

Thank you all...but my baby passed away from sids he was only four months....thats why im so terrified...im trying to stay strong but its hard

[bby_17]

I'm so sorry about your loss

[ribaby15]

rainbow baby is the baby born after a miscarriage or stillborn baby (after 24wks)

[lilmama8991]

Two years ago I got pregnant and the baby had ancephile. Which means the top of the head never forms and usually only live at most a couple days so the baby had to be taken. it tore me apart... I am currently 37 weeks pregnant with a healthy baby girl. When I first found out I was pregnant I was terrified it would happen again. I ran every test possible and stressed for months. Jolene is my miracle. Stay strong momma and have faith. That's all you can do

[proudmommy619]

Thank you...and uve heard rainbow baby before but what does it mean

[princesscoming0115]

Is a normal feeling to be scared hun u can't help it. But i believe this is ur rainbow baby and god send it for a reason. Once ur natural instincts of feeling fearful go away am sure you'll feel much better :)

And am sorry for ur lost :(