My husband and I are super open with each other when it comes to discussing sex and attraction. He talks to me like one of the guys and I like it. You cannot expect any man to only be attracted to you, whether you are married or not men will always find other women attractive. Anyone who thinks otherwise is naive and if your hubby tells you otherwise he's lying to make you happy. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you and doesn't want to be with only you, but sometimes it's also nice to look at porn for a bit of variety. My hubby and I are totally understanding of this with each other and to be honest sometimes I don't like what he says but I have to accept it because at least he's talking to me and being open about it.
Just because he watches porn does not mean he isn't committed.... I would quote frankly be concerned with a man who does NOT watch porn... I even watch porn... my husband watches it. .. it doesn't mean in the slightest bit that either of us are stepping outside of our marriage to fulfill the sexual need elsewhere... I have been put on complete pelvic rest several times... at 19 weeks for 1 week, at 23 weeks for 1 week, weeks 24-36, im now 37w4d and have been the last 7 days... all that combined is a long time to not have sex...
He is a truck driver, local now. And when he was on the road I would send him pictures which he has saved. That was our compromise so that he wouldn't be tempted yo watch it.he's home now and he gets it in everyday some days more than once excuse me for being shocked and hurt by my curtent situation.
Dont fret on it. Just because he is watching porn does not mean he wants to sleep with someone else. Men tend to be way more sexual than women are. I cant remember the exact stats on how often sex actually crosses a man's mind versus a woman's. Him watching porn has nothing to do with whether or not he is satisfied with you. Im willing to bet that he has been watching porn this whole time and you just hadnt seen it. I honestly dont know how anyone masturbates satisfactorily without some porn, I dont lmao!
If this is a huge concern to you then let him know how it makes you feel. But have an open mind to his feelings too. Maybe you can compromise? Ive made solo videos and my husband and I even made one together. Ive caught him watching those more often than he does other porn. Lol
The thing with me is that he knows how strongly I feel about it. We've been together 9years and it was only an issue once. And it never happend again. I know "sex isn't everything but it is something" and I've been doing my part as a wife. Im very religious and Im very hurt by this. One night and this happens. I mean whats to say when I get bigger he's not gonna cheat. Or if in the future my baby is sick and I sleep in the next room. He wont feel an urge and fill it somewhere else?
I'm with you thorarb. Porn is not a big deal as long as he still come to you when you want it thats all that should matter. Most men do watch porn they just hide it. Doesn't mean he's unhappy at all