pregnant and single...after birth question....

[Ana_K_09]

So just a little brief about me...I dated my ex for abt a year and two weeks after I told him I was pregnant he cheated. I moved out and moved in with my mom, he is now dating the girl he cheated on me with and even moved her in to our old house. He doesn't want to be on child support and hasnt really been involved in the pregnancy. I havent told him but I have decided to put child support on him after my son is born. We dont exactly communicate but ive learn to deal with the situation....I just want to know if anyone else has gone thru something like this and how you felt after your baby was born??

[mika0005]

Well I am actually going through the same thing but not the cheating part he stayed all they way until I was 8 month s and said this is to complicated and with my hormones its to hard to deal with me he has are a apartment and I live with my mom Ive never believe in child support but I an 15 days away from giving birth to our son and he has no phone so that i canot contact him and I try to give him a chance to see if he will be there but it looks like ill be on my own. And that I will be filling cs! See if he will be there first so at least u can say u tried but there right we didnt make these babies on are own.

[MakaelaMP]

There should be no question.  Any parent who is not living with and supporting their child should be paying child support. It will be worth it in the end because it's a guarantee and you will save yourself alot of arguing and chasing.

[ajrain8386]

I have been through this type of sitaution. I love my son more than anything Bc it was just us for a long time, and because I was the only one who wanted him. No an ideal situation to have a baby in... but he is the love of my life. But ur ex on child support and live for that baby and no one else.

[Luvlycrys88]

*** The original amount he wanted to give me***

[Luvlycrys88]

Do not under no circumstance sign anything he brings from a notary. It is not up to him how much he gets to pay a month for support. The amount he wants to pay you may not be an amount that's fair to you or the baby. I filed for child support 2 weeks after my first son was born on 2006. As of now he owes almost $20,000 in arrears. The arrears amount to wanted to give me prior to child support getting in contact with him was little to nothing. The arrears mount mount the court ordered for him to pay was twice that. Good luck and stay strong and stand your ground for what you believe is best for you and your baby.

[Alliestyl]

I'm going through a sort of similar situation.  I was with my husband for almost 11 years and he left when I was 5 months pregnant and he's got a new girlfriend.  I wonder if when he goes through the birth experience with me if he'll drop this rebound chick and come around. He'd never been with another girl before me. He's paying child support whether we get back together or not. Oh yeah he wants a divorce but texts me I'm confused I don't know what I'm feeling.

[Blessedwit4]

Thats wht im planning on doin nw as well wit this pregnancy. Just let him receive the letter n the mail n he will have to go for a Dna test n if it comes out to b his the courts will decide on hw much he will have go pay a mth including bck pay. That's wht done here in Tn.

[addysmama04]

I don't know what your state policy is, but here they automatically take it out of paychecks. And he will be obligated to pay back support from when the baby is born. But each state is different I suppose.

[Ana_K_09]

He has mentioned going to a notary and having some sort of a legal document stating how much money he would give me a month...he mentioned this a few months back. Just three weeks ago I brought it up and asked him when he wanted to go and he says..I just dnt think its necessary. ..thats his way of saying I dnt wanna do it. Which is why I decided to do child support and not tell him id rather him just get a letter in the mail and do it that way....

[addysmama04]

I left my first child's dad before I knew I was pregnant and like a real man he denied paternity. In Colorado, they automatically go after support. It was hard but having a good support system helped. He fathered the child and should have to support it.

[Blessedwit4]

I have been thru the exact same situation. My ex n i was 2getha for 3yrs n 1 miscarriage. After the miscarriage i found out i was pregnant again n he left. He was not involved at all throughout my pregnancy n begged me not to put him cs. Ok i simply told him if u do what ur suppose to do den u wouldnt b put on there.. Long story short my oldest is nw 5 n i put his father on C.S wen he was 2. Within the 3yrs of bein on C.S i received 5 payments n all lol bt if ur baby father chosses to do whts right for the child den let him. if not take legal action cuz u did not make the baby on ur own.