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[bbm1188]

Is it normal for relationships to go through rough patches while pregnant? My husband and I lately aren't getting along. I've been feeling like crap with headaches/migraines every day. I complain a lot about how I'm feeling. He gets mad when I do. He says don't vent to me about how you feel when i can't do anything. I don't know who to vent to when I have not a lot of friends right now. I keep wanting to talk about our relationship and he avoids me, doesn't want to talk about it. He just seems so irritated and all I want is love and support. I ask for an I love you and he says I'm needy. I'm so over-emotional right now, all of this *****, I'm so depressed. I question if our relationship is even going to work out, I feel very needy but I just want to be comforted. :'(

[ftmama626]

He sounds quite insensitove but ya know what for better or worse. U didn't climb on top of urself n got pregnant. Bitching, complaining whatever. Ur pregnant. Its what we do. Sounds like he needs to man up amd step up and support u thru this pregnancy.

[bbm1188]

The funny thing is the guy has no fear. He's not scared of anything, he has a no fear complex so says the psychiatrist, he is just sick of hearing me complain and be in a bad mood, he threatens to leave  me for the night and stay at his dads he's so frustrated. I'm sitting here heartbroken he's not understanding. He also says this trimester is not bad on a scale of 1 to 10, its a 4. And that it will be much worse later. He's a know it all cause its not like that for everyone
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[genamarie]

I would imagine it is normal. Pregnancy is a very trying time not just for you, but for your partner especially if you're both becoming first time parents. Everything is new, different, and scary. You both have so many concerns. The best you can do is try talking to him and telling him how you feel, and see if he opens up and comes around. He may just have cold feet, and be worried about how things will change.

[fordgal]

They certainly have no idea my husband is refusing to b at the birth cause apparently our daughter's birth still gives him nightmares!

[ftmama626]

Aw hun unfortunately men are jackasses. But its quite normal. When I first told my husband I was pregnant, he asked if there was someone else. They r insensitive and pricks. I wish I could say it gets easier but I'm 37+1 and its still the same. Just today I got bitched at for wanting to go into labor bc we don't have gas in the car n he doesn't get paid til tomorrow but yet he could go fishing. Men have no idea what we go thru during pregnancy. Add me if u ever wanna chat/vent I'm always here.

[bbm1188]

No my mom died when I was 8 ans I'm an only child. My best friend just moved away. My other friend isn't reliable she's in rehab. So I don't have a lot of support as far as friends. But thanks ladies for making me feel better. At the end of the night when I calmed down my husband talked it out withme and said some nice things, some harsh things to but ill take the good with the bad

[Sarah765]

Its normal to be having issues, and its important to work at them, all marriages have rough patches, adding hormones, and a huge change of life event just makes it worse.   But over talking it could cause more problems then help, women like to talk things out, it is entirely draining to most men.  He probably isnt reacting well because its completely overwhelming to him, which could cause him to just shut down.  Its important to talk out the really important issues, but be selective, pick your battles.  If you start focusing on having fun with him, and just being happy together, and ignoring most of the things you are being afraid are issues, you will probably find a lot of the things that you thought were issues in the first place will start to fade away.  Treat him like you did when you first met.  Do you have a mom or sister or anyone you could talk to when your feeling uncomfortable, and just need to complain about things?

[sandy_baby3oct6]

My hubby told he at the beginning of this pregnancy he wasn't looking forward to all the complaining lol so i tried to keep it in but now since i started having cramps and contractions and I'm only 22+3 he is constantly asking me how i am he calls on every one of his breaks to check up on me and he won't let me do anything! It's like he's ordered me on bed rest or something! Yes it's totally normal for you guys to be going through a rough patch but you have to work through it to make it out in the better side i agree telling yourself your over emotional will help you deal with some of it but try to sit him down and start like i know I've been kinds needy from you lately but can you just hang in there and help me get through this? My husband is not a very emotional guy he says that i should just KNOW that he loves me and he shouldn't have to keep saying it :/ but we've compromised and if i say it first he says it back but he very rarely says it first unless I'm mad at him and he doesn't know why lol

[violetmoonbean]

My husband is acting very similar. I just want to tell him what im feeling and worrying about. He just says how is worry about things going to make anything better. I just want to open up to.someone just.so its out of my head. I know worrying wont fix anything but its hard not.to worry when you.are.pregnant and im pregnant with.twins. im scared and he shows no emotion. I feel so alone in this pregnancy. I just dont know.what.to.do either.

[fordgal]

Its understandable pregnancy is tough ur tired all the time your hormones take contol and make u an emotional wreck! The blokes have a hard time understanding cause pregnancy isn't controlling their bodies good communication and trying to remember u are over emotional help Becoming parents is huge and life changing, it can b very scary Hope things improve just try to relax and kno that its a difficult time for u both x