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should i take the pills to miscarry at home, let it happen or dc
Never been thru this. No growth they said it won't make it. Any one been thru this what should I do???
Thank you Im getting a second opinion Monday. And I'm making piece slowly with it not turning out well. Just getting more opinion. Thank you all for caring and getting me thru
Its nothing you did. Please dont blame yourself. Your body knows exactly what its doing and when a fetus isnt going to make it, it stops the process. In the same way, it will know how to expell the fetal matter. I went natural since i didnt want to risk an op on my uterus. I felt contractions and it hurt like a painful period(which im used to). Most importantly, trust your body. I went through the same and although difficult to accept at the time, we were lucky to conceive soon after, now 22wks. Recovery took 2 wks but i recovered 100%, so in our first try we were just unlucky and now praying for a second chance. Do what you think suits you and your lifestyle. Take everything in your stride, try not to stess too much and surround yourself only with people who care about you. All the best.
Update I have a second opinion booked Monday. And the DNC or d and c for Wednesday. I'm still heart broken and going to do all I can to know that I did all I can do.
I'm off for few days Wednesday and for the rest of the week. I asked the father of the baby to go with me but have mixed feelings if I should have him go since he abandoned me because he wanted me to abort it and i wouldnt. So this is what he wanted. My family dont want me to ask him or have him go since he left me for dead. But i feel that he should do something and be there for me.
Im so sorry you are going through this. I have had a d/c. If I could give you advice it would be to take some time off work and surround yourself with positive people. Take care of yourself!!!! Let yourself grieve.
Sorry u goin thru this.. at my 11 weeks appt I found out my baby stop growing at 9weeks n dr.offer me the pills or d&c I wanted the pill since d&c its surgery so I can home and took the pill and start bleeding like crazy so I went to the er n they took everything out without pain meds after dr.finished everything I won't stop bleeding which I end up having d&c n stayed at the hospital for a day.got pregnant fine afterward n gave birth to babu girl 19days ago!! Good luck n best wish!!
So she just called me third set hcg didnt go up. So I opted for d/c wed I kept asking will it not grow she said no it wont
Seriously stick to your instincts, doctors are wrong. Progesterone can be purchased over the counter so maybe try that for yourself and that will raise your hcg levels
I cant thank everyone ebough. I'm waiting for them to call me with on more hcg level because I wanted to see. I'm more upset that the father left me and didn't want this baby and now this happens. I can never be with him again. So when and if I'm going to lose this baby he better not think to come around me. I can never forgive him for what he has done and the terrible things he has said. Im afraid of being at work and it happens so I was thinking of going with d/c. Im just scared that some how they are wrong. The levels are not doubling and no growth on the ultrasound.
I've had two miscarriages and ended up with two D&Cs (one a missed miscarriage that didn't seem to want to pass on its own, and one a partial miscarriage that was resulting in hemorrhage because some pieces of tissue weren't separating from my uterine lining). It wasn't so bad, I refused anesthesia and only had a local anesthetic in my cervix so I was fully awake and talking through the procedures. I cried a lot, it was tough emotionally but I didn't want to just have them knock me out and wake up no longer pregnant. I thought it was important to go through that experience. Each time we waited three months after the D&C and then were able to conceive right away in our first month of trying again. I wish I hadn't needed to go through it. I wish you weren't in such a sad and awful situation. But all in all I felt okay with how things ended up since I didn't have any way to fix what was wrong. I would have preferred to avoid the "surgical" procedures. They're pretty expensive even with insurance. But I needed it and I'm glad it was available to me.
I had a dnc, wasn't given the option. The hardest part for me was knowing I wouldn't come home with my babies like other women. I felt like they were being taken from me, however it was an amazing bonding experience for me and my husband. My doctor offered to write me a note to excuse me from work but I went back anyway, it helped keep my mind off of everything going on.
Sound to me like you have questions about the baby still living, have you had a second opinion? Sometime mamas need to fallow their feeling just so we can be 100% sure. I would ask for another ultrasound and them make a choice. If I were in you shoes I would choose natural miscarry as you body know how to do it and will do it right for you.
I had a miscarriage at 20 weeks and it was so painful and I had a missed miscarriage at 8 weeks what you have is a missed miscarriage I waited weeks to see if my body would naturally pass the baby but it never did so I had a d&c done and there was minimal pain or bleeding with a natural miscarriage you usually have a lot of bleeding and pain as the baby is passing a d&c is faster and you are not awake to deal with it but it's your choice don't let your doctor force you to have anything you don't want if you also feel like you have been misdiagnosed you can get a second opinion
*false hope
I feel like I would want a second opinion.doctors do not know everything..I know of several people who the doctors told them they should abort, and they didn't and now they have healthy babies.. of course I don't want to give you false hopper, but I would just want to be sure.
Never been through this so dont really know what to say,so sorry to hear what youre goin through,will you keep you in my prayers xx
I miscarried naturally. There was a lot of cramping and pain. I was put on bed rest for 3 days after. I continued to go to have blood tests to see if my hormones went back to normal once a week for about a month. 6 weeks after my miscarriage I got pregnant again. I am so sorry for what you are going through.
I'm so sorry your going thru this bless you and your family
I want to just let it happen. Does it hurt really bad. I'm afraid I will be at work. And it's just knowing its going to happen is breaking my heart. I cant stop crying
I let mine happen naturally it was horrible but I think that its easier to get your body back on track if you do it naturally
Thank you. I'm scared. And I have to work a lot coming up the next few days. So I don't want to be at work. But scared that what if some how they are wrong? (Denial in me) idk
With your doctor.My aunt has had several mc and she let nature take its course, unfortunately her body never got rid of the baby bag (or placenta something like) that any ways after a long time her last pregnancy she got supper sick and had to get "cleaned" from the inside were everything was building up. She cant have babies anymore so for sure go to the doctors.
I had a prolonged miscarriage last march and had been bleeding for 9 weeks in total not very heavy and with little pain. I didnt know until a couple of weeks into bleeding that this is what was happening had i of known i would still opt for the nature taking its course.i fell again right at the end of april. My sister miscarried in july last year at 9 weeks and let nature take its course. She had painful cramps and passed the clots with in a day or so then had bleeding for a week afterwards. What i will say is she has been trying ever since to get pregnant and is struggling..so it depends on the person. Do whatever you feel is best for your baby and body xxx
Def do it with doc. I'm so sorry to hear :(
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