sister advice

[chubb3s]

So I'm 7 months with my first an my sister told me shes now month pregnant with her forth! Should I be upset? I know I shouldn't cause its crazy its jus that I feel like its going to take the attention from my child. I know that sounds terrible but he's the first boy I our family. I dont know um jus having all these mixed feelings towards it. Any advice?

[mege26]

As I said was not thrilled with my sister (as you can tell by my psychotic posts, we had some real issues!) but this time I am pregnant a month apart from my sister in law and 4 days from my best friend and maybe 2 months from another friend! I'm excited for that. We are excited to go camping this year and be pregnant together. And my best friend (of 10 years) have always joked about being pregnant together! The fact that it is happening is crazy! We are going to do maternity pictures together! (As corny as that is!) Lol. I know my babies will always be loved by family. And it was exciting at Christmas to have 4 new additions! And this year will be another 2! Talk about a full house. In the end things are fine. Its just learning how to handle things in the middle that is hard.

[hayzmama]

Although I'm not in your situation I can empathize. In my family it seems I could share the best news ever about something and people would say they are happy...but if my sister shared the same news they would throw a parade in her honor lol I think it is natural to feel a slight let down in this situation...but it's what you do with those feelings that matter. Dust yourself off and know it doesn't take anything away from how you feel or your blessing in being pregnant...smile bc you are a bigger person and can be happy for others even if it seems like they are not for you.

[Pammy271]

I love being pregnant when friends and family members are too, because we get to share our pregnancy experience together and there is a alot of support.

[thenewmrs_b]

And just so its stated... my child was made purely out of love and the desire to have a child with my husband

[thenewmrs_b]

Ok ladies... I think everyone is forgetting these threads are not meant to make already emotional women feel worse... I think if you don't agree with the topic then just move on to another.

Secondly I can see both sides of this situation. I have one incredibly amazing sister who I would have loved to have a baby with and two girlfriends that are due one month before me and 5 days after me... both of which I am ecstatic for. However I have a sister that has always been the jealous type.Everything is compared and she always tells me my life is better for one reason or another. When iI told her that my now husband proposed and we intended on the fall of 2013 she said oh... that's it. Demanded to be in my wedding then got pregnant and freaked out everyday including my wedding day about looking huge in the dress and all but ruined my one special day.

When I told her about this pregnancy she told me she hopes I have a son because her daughter is the youngest and if I have a girl too I'll steal her daughters spot light!!! Really!?!?! So when she announced this pregnancy I felt like she was trying to one up me and yes I was jealous!!! You can say I'm childish but it is hard to not feel slighted when you know the baby was made to compete and outdo you

[coachsymons]

Been there!! I'm the youngest of three. I got pregnant on my wedding night and told my family late August and everyone was excited bc it would be the first grandkid. Fastforward to December abs my sister announces she is pregnant. I was mad especially because she wasn't married or with the father long. I totally hated that instead of me being pregnant, it was "US." Now I love that Calvin has a cousin only three months younger than him. But honestly, I will probably get mad if she gets pregnant this time too.

[jamiek63]

I loved being pregnant with my sister.  It was so exciting!  Why would anyone feel like it's taking attention away from them.  Sounds so juvenile to me.  In the end,  babies are a blessing and that is what the focus should be,  not "I'm pissed because my sister might get more attention"

[Jaja65]

And I didn't have a little girl on a purpose. ...I've always wanted a daughter too. I've always said I wanted 5 kids (although I think I've changed my mind lol)

[Jaja65]

I guess I'm the opposite.  I wish my sister would get pregnant with me..she only has 1 little boy. Before that she had my niece and she passed away. Even though she lost my niece YEARS ago. She lived about 2 weeks after birth. I still shy away from her because I have 3 boys and will be  having my 1st little girl. I don't want her to feel some type of way towards me because although I'm sorry my niece is gone life still moves forward for us all.

[Jrob0530]

I LOVE having someone to share my pregnancy with. There are 4of us pregnant at the same time all 3 weeks apart and 2 of us are FTM. It's strange because our feelings are divided 2 are upset to share the spotlight and 2of us don't care and do Baby Fairs, Breast Feeding Seminars etc. together. Don't get me wrong I have an amazing Daddy to be but no one will understand you like another pregnant woman lol

[jaceandkhimommy]

Ok. Well my little sister always get pregnant a couple of montha after me so her kids could be the youngest and so on amd so forth, but it does not bother me. The reason being is my babies are mine and I dont care if family pays attention to them or not because I will. If I thought of it like jealousy than she and I would fall out. My son was the first boy 9months later she had a boy. Two years later I had my second son 11months later she had a boy. I am due this month with my first girl and she is due in august and she is praying for a girl.lol. I think its funny and wish her the best.  But I dont care at least they can play together.

[cupcakemum]

The only attention your child needs is from you. Your child could careless if he was loved by aunties, uncles grandma. A mothers love is complete. And i seriously don't care if other people didn't give my son attention.

[thepenguinsrock]

Me and my sis share our birthday but I'm a year older. Her oldest is 1 year older then my youngest and I'm preg with a girl due 2 years to the day of her youngest. We always say we would love for one of our kids to share a birthday to. And if we were preg together we would be so happy. I don't get the upset and jealousy between sisters :)

[ReddBaron1373]

I only felt uneasy when my sister-in-law came to my husband and I with being worried about being pregnant in the same week I found out. I didn't think not to tell anyone so I told the world that day. My ex-step-daughter just had found out too and I was thrilled. With my husband's sister I was uneased because she didn't want to be, didn't love the man, had just adopted a 11 year old disabled child. She dreaded that idea of being with the man for a long lasting relationship and she just never did protection. My ex-step-daughter had been dating and got engaged to her man and then got pregnant. I have always felt more compassion towards woman who have kids made from love vs women who have kids made from lust. I've even gone far enough to know what my own mother was like pregnant and other points of her life and strongly disagree with her on a lot of things that she had done. I know that my mom did not love my dad when she got pregnant with me. In turn my life and my sister's life (same dad, just my mom felt different to him then. Sister is 4 yrs older) turned out very different. I was more uneasy about her having a child with a man she didn't know and didn't love. My husband and I knew we loved eachother unconditionally from the start but we still waited over a year after marriage to start trying (which was instant as soon as we tried). I know there is a big difference in a childs life is better with parents who love not just them by eachother as well. I just don't feel right when women get pregnant by people they don't love and they first say they don't want to have kids by that person and against abortion so they go through with an unwanted pregnancy with an unwanted child. I think those kids can feel that unwantedness at a young infant and it effect how they grow and learn. Other than that I love the blessings that two loving people can and decide to bring into the world. The families love all children adding to them. You will have your baby before her anyways, by the time she starts to "hog" attention you will totally be will to let it go, you'll be tired and want to be alone with your son. Don't fret and just know that the family will join together to be there for you when he's born that means her too but all there for YOU, she probably hopes that you won't be to busy to not give her support after you give birth. Let joy fill your heart and your children's lives.

[mege26]

So just think of the kids and the fun they will have together. Actright made a good point of them being close.

[mege26]

I do love seeing my daughter play with her cousins... Like I said, my sister is evil. If she were to have a good heart it would have been fun being pregnant together. I don't let my feelings towards her get in the way of the kids.

[actright]

Im 9 months pregnant and my sister is 6 months pregnant she's 3 years older than me and this will be her 5th child. She has 2 daughters and 2 sons I didn't mind but I was kinda worried she would have a girl. Why? Because I have two boys and wanted a girl really bad so did she idk why since she already has 2 lol anyway im having a girl and she's having a boy ") im excited they are gonna be close. My oldest and her second oldest are 6 months apart so they are also close and her youngest and my youngest are a year apart and are really close too ")

[mege26]

How close are you with your sister? My step brothers wives were preg when I was and this time one of the wife's is preg. That doesn't bother me at all! I'm excited! And my best friend is due 4 days before me! Exciting! So... As long as you guys have had a pretty decent relationship, I would try to make the best out of it. It does stink when you just want to have that moment :( what's done is done.

[britt423]

Im 26 weeks and just found out my oldest sister is 2 weeks pregnant with her 2nd child.. Im not to happy about it. My other sister seemed like she was trying to get pregnant so Ive had a bad feeling someone would end up taking the attention from me. Its okay to be upset about it.. I feel really unimportant now.

[mege26]

Oh... I've been there! My sister is evil though! Always has been. She had my neice at 23 wks so it was a hard time. Touch and go. Since then she told ppl she was not able to have more or didn't want more. Everyone knew after I got married that we would try. So 6 yrs after my niece was born and I announced I was preg.she tells me she is due 10 days after me.. I had a miscarriage. So the next time I get preg she throws me a shower. And a week before my shower, she announces she is pregnant. She was like 3 wks... So she could have waited until after my shower or after the birth! I know this was no coincidence... Every big event I have had, she has something come up too. Its stressful. But just be excited for your family. B/c of the many things my sister has done to me, I had to change the kind of relationship I had with her. I hope your situation isn't that bad. I get so jealous of my friends that are "best friends" with their siblings :) I wish I could have that.

[susamor]

It might be a special moment in both of your lives.  I would try and see it that way if I were in your position. :)

[momtobe052014]

You farther along so really you going to have more attention.because this your first and her 4 the attention going to be on you until your baby born but since you having a boy he gone get a lot of attention when he arrive that's my opinion...

[chubb3s]

I'm having  the boy she doesn't know wat shes having yet. She has 3 girls already.

[nessa1924]

Who's having the boy?