sister in law lost her baby

[Sheba27]

I'm 31+4 and my sister in law lost her baby a few weeks ago. She's still dealing with this and posted to Facebook about it which is really public for her. She has a five year old and a two year old that are just wonderful. This is the second baby she's lost. She's also my doula for my current and first pregnancy. I have no idea what to say or how to offer comfort or support to her and my brother, and I feel that not mentioning it is more rude than trying to help somehow... I just don't know what I can do that doesn't come off the wrong way since I'm so far along in my pregnancy. Any ideas? I don't want her to think I'm ignoring this or insensitive or anything.

[Sheba27]

I don't know the details of how, just that she did. Both in 2nd trimester. Thanks for the ideas, I'll be putting something together today.

[Babygirl271983]

How did she loose them

[bholcomb]

My niece was stillborn at 28 weeks. Our friend made a tutu with angel wings for my sister. This is something sweet that is on my niece's headstone. A angel wrote my baby name's in the book of life and whisper to sweet for life as she closes the book. Maybe get a poem and have it fixed up and in a cute picture frame.

[kate042015]

A necklace with little hand or foot prints with baby's name on it. Maybe a stuffed animal with their name. Maybe you could make a pretty garden stone with their name.

[Newmummy657]

I like that idea, a nice keepsake.. I lost a baby very early on and everyone tip toed around me and no one spoke to me about it hardly anyone even said I'm sorry for your loss... Talk to them about their baby and as their is nothing worse than having people ignore it while your heart is shatterd.

[Sheba27]

I like the idea of a gift, just not sure what...she named both of them, so I could get something with their names on it. What would you get your friend?

[kate042015]

Have lost babies*. Sorry typing too fast.

[kate042015]

Perhaps a gift to commemorate their baby's life. I have friends who have babies in the first trimester all the way up to 26 weeks. What they want most is an acknowledgement that their baby lived..that their child indeed left a mark on the world. So many people think that miscarriage or stillbirth isn't a big deal. Don't be afraid of talking about their child for fear of reminding them...trust me they think about it every day.