so upset with mother

[girlinseptember]

I am almost 32 weeks pregnant and have been on bedrest since 27 weeks due to the risk of preterm labor. I have been planning my wedding to my fiance (we are doubling with his sister) I love my in-laws and all of my fiances family. However it is my own mum causing me distress. My wedding is only a 40 minute flight from were we live and we have found flights and accomodation that is withina reasonable pprice for her, and not to mention it is still 9 months away. This morning I get a message saying I haven't taken her feelings into consideration about where and when to get married. She wants me to drive over an hour to have a talk with her and says even though I am on bedrest, I know you can travel to talk with me. What should I do? j just burst into tears this morning and don't want to stress because of baby..

[girlinseptember]

Thank you for your comments, I didn't think I was being unreasonable. I don't get why she is doing this, especially while I am pregnant. My baby shower is next weekend and I relly don't think I want her to come now, she would just have me nervous all day and I don't think I would enjoy myself, is it wrong to not let her come? I have told her so many times about the fact that its my wedding and I will have it where we want to, but she just keeps making excuses like, her partner may not be able to get work off, my brother is saving for an overseas trip (yet everytime I talk to him he is so excited to be part of our wedding).

[melissa724]

Planning a wedding is so stressful, never mind doing it while you're pregnant. You are on bedrest, it is time for your mom to consider you and your baby's health first. Also this is your wedding, plan it and send her an invite. Everyone always has to have their opinions, just ignore them. My mother drove me insane when I was planning mine, but in the end everything went perfect. Good luck and congratulations.

[shastas84]

Your mom sounds like my mother in law. They must have gone to the same medical school! Trying to tell us what we can do and can't do! And having no respect for our feelings or needs. This is your time to shine! Don't let her ruin it for you. Good luck

[baby2014]

It sounds like she's not being considerate of you. Bed rest means bed rest. No traveling no stress. I was on bed rest and traveling was a big no no. Your mom should want to come to you and help you since you are on bed rest.

Your wedding is your wedding it's up to you it's your dream.

[PhysicsMommy]

Your on bed rest tell her you can't and won't drive that far but would be happy to talk via phone.  I think its your wedding do what works for you.