stress level at 27 weeks

[jaspiker14]

I am trying to keep my stress level low but after last night fighting with the father of my unborn daughter over his son his who is four years old who he has full custody of. last night the four year old said that I did something to him that I did not do and Dad immediately took his sons side & began screaming and shaking in calling me many names in front of the four year old. Threating to harm me but never did. last night both came to be and slept together all of us. after waking up I found out that our morning routine was going to be changed as dad was going to take him to work with him before school so that I was not taking the child to school. He informed me I'm no longer allowed to be left alone with his son and I don't know what to do because i love the child I did nothing wrong. I usually pick his son up from school and was told not to and I don't know if they will return back home or move in with his parents. the unknown is eating me alive and causing stress and I don't know how to stop that to make sure my unborn child is not being affected.

[chrissymccann23]

You need to decide if you even want a "partner" that does not hear you out before flying off the handle. Let my husband ever act like that and i wont be worried if he is coming home or not, his **** will be on the porch.

[jaspiker14]

They did come home after work long enough to let the little one play with me and give me some loving while dad pack a bag for his son to go out to his moms house but not for him. I don't know if he'll be returning tonight he is just my boyfriend not husband. Our baby was unplanned and ever since we found out july 2nd the relationship has been very shaky. I told him the day I found out I was pregnant he is more than welcome to walk out the door and leave but I was refusing to have an abortion as Im 29 with a stable life. I talked to a lot of my friends they are aware of the situation and I will be sleeping by the time he returns home tonight so there's no chance for an altercation. I'm trying to stay strong because I know the stress is not good for the baby I just am not sure how to slow my brain down from worrying about what ifs......

[baby_love2014]

That's ridiculous that he took a 4 year old side instead of yours. None of this is fair to you. I think he's being a real jerk. Just let him go and he'll realize how stupid he is. The child is 4 for gods sakes! Kids say nonsense all the time! Ugh this bothers me. Sorry you have to go through this. Give him time. ..if he doesn't come around,  that's his own dumb fault and he'll have to live with the regret. Just breathe momma! Stay strong for you and your unborn daughter!

[fozia786]

Sorry to hear about wat happened.  Kids can be so manipulative and make a lot up to cause rifts between parents.  Try not to stress yourself even though it's hard in that situation.  Stand ur ground. If u haven't done anything wrong then just let time pass. If he moves in with his parents then more fool him. He is one lucky guy having u care for his son n take full responsibility of dropping n collecting him from school etc as ur own.  He will hopefully see sense soon. When he does make it clear to him u expect him to stand by you. Dont apologise or he willthink ur guilty.  Let ur hubby come to u cos hes the one in the wrong. Good luck n hope things get better soon.