Will stress bring on labor? :(

[Suzscully]

My ex whom I haven't been with for 6 years is still upsetting me everyday. We have a little girl together who is nearly 9. We have 50/50 custody. I've planned my wedding for this coming February with the love of my life. I've just figured out that my little girl (who wanted to be a flower girl) will be with her dad on the wedding day: I've asked him if I could have her for an extra day and night and he has said no :( said I should've organised the wedding on a day when my girl was with me. I can't get married without my daughter there with me. I'm 39+1 day and I am trying not to stress and cry but I am hurting so much :(  how could he be so mean? :(

[kfw6293]

Good luck! It will b ok. Stand ur ground.

[kfw6293]

My husband's ex didn't want hours kids at r wedding n so he took them out of school early without telling her. She obviously found out went to police and they just told him to make sure they can call her everyday(we went out of state) not like ur kidnapping her. Say he can have her after the wedding. U gave birth to her.  Don't let him bully u. That's ur wedding, ur daughter and u have every right. He can take his feelings and shove em. U have a reason to keep her that day.

[Suzscully]

Ok I will go to the courts and see what they say. Thanks everyone. I feel I'm being a bit petty as I am so emotional at the moment. But I shouldn't let him get to me. I just needed to vent. Thanks for listening.

[kfw6293]

For simple things like that,  u shouldn't need a lawyer. Ur just asking a judge for a request.  Might be able to have a mediator approve it. Judges usually get pissed when the other party starts causing dumb problems.

[Suzscully]

Thankyou everyone. I may just have to get some money together and go see a lawyer to get the day approved.

[Suzscully]

Mrskia: I can't afford to go to the lawyers about it :(

[mamiofstb3]

Since you're far enough along, you may be stressed and have labor just occur. Not necessarily from the stress itself. Even if the stress did cause it, you're 39+1 so it's safe anyhow. I agree with the taking him to court to get the day approved. Just the threat alone may make him change his mind. It's rude for him to stress you out right now anyway considering you've got enough going on. He is being petty and I also think it's his way of trying to hurt you one last time. Take it easy and all will be ok!!!

[Suzscully]

We already have it court ordered. We had a plan drawn up and signed by the courts when we broke up 6 years ago so I suppose the police would be able to take her if I didn't let her go back. And I wouldn't want the police to have to take her as that would upset her and its the last thing I want to do. I know how much she wants to be a part of the wedding so I really hope that he can see that and he doesn't deny her being able to be a part of everything :( she is so excited to be having a new little sister and excited to dress up as a flower girl. I really hope he stops being so cruel.

[mrskia3]

Yes definitely take him to court and try and get the day approve

[kfw6293]

They try to scare u and stuff. Don't let him get to u. It's pathetic.  U have the upper hand not him.  I had to realize that. I use to get so upset. But I'm like seriously take me back to court.  All they will do is make u make a day up say u already offered that.  Or if u don't want to do that.  Take him to court and get that day approved

[kfw6293]

I'd just keep her. Lol when my ex did that for special events I'd just keep the kids. He took me to C out for it but the judge dismissed it bc he was being pety. Does the police handle child custody?  Like if he call cops would they make u hand her over? Now me and my ex worked it out 7 yrs later that if we got something going on ill switch days with him n stuff so he isn't losing out on his day

[ShalaneMarie]

I kinda understand what u are going through. We had that problem with my step daughter.
Her mother refused to allow her to attend our wedding. Broke our hearts.
However we threw a mock wedding later and made her the star:) she was 3 tho so it made it easier to kinda fool her.
Her father is obviously being malicious and just doing this to hurt u one last time.