under 30 with 3 Kids.. anyone?

[Lilly747]

I'm 27, stay at home mommy. Have a 7 yr old, 3.5 yr old and almost a 2 month..
My oldest goes to school, and during the day, its just me and the two Kids.. I have a hard time getting alot done becuz baby wants held, n when she's asleep, im cleaning/doing laundry Ect... I'm mad at myself that I don't find more time with my middle child. We were so close before I had the baby, and I know he feels left out, there's just so much to get done..by the time I get things done, babys awake! I don't have any help, I have ti prepare dinner every night, usually by the time hubby gets home from work, by 5 30..can anyone relate? How do you handle everything? I feel like sometimes I'm gunna have a melt down...

[Lilly747]

Thanks hon for the advice!
I do involve him into chores, n loves helping me in the kitchen. Im gunna try to spend more one on one with him, cuz you're right,I want to be able to remember the time spent with my son, not a clean house.

[Furby85]

Jennymetalheart I am also a Jenny lol! You're right the older kids do know how to destroy the house. I have an 11 yr old, 8 yr old, 5 yr, and 3 yr old. My mom had a sign in our kitchen when we were little that makes perfect sense to me now. It said " Cleaning a house with children is like shoveling snow while it's still snowing!" POINTLESS hahaha!

[Jennymetalheart]

I'm 27 also with baby #5 on the way. I find it really hard to get things done! I home school my 7,5, and 3 year old and my 1 1\2 year old gets into everything!! I do laundry everyday! It's crazy how much I have! I think I've got it all done and then BAM there's more! I feel defeated a lot! I try, but my kids just tear the house up! I have my older two clean as much as I can make them (just easy things, like picking up, sweeping, etc) so, that helps a little until they decided to make a mess again. Lol

[KJV_always]

I'm 27 time and also a stay at home.mom. I have a 4 yr old in prek .a 19 month .old who refuses.tl sleep through the night and am 30 wks with my third son. I usually vacuum every day sweep in between and use my steam.cleaner.on the floor every morning and everynight  It's easy since it dries instantly I don't have to worry about the kids slipping. I get up at 6 everyday to get my four yr  old ready for.School thank god my husband puts him.on the bus though in the morning. And I get him.off the bus everyday. Then. I do snack time homework and make dinner. Then do baths and bed.time. I'm a total clean freak so I am  happy unless my house is a mess then I'm miserable.  I dlnt really have.much help in the house bc I chose to stay home with them so its my job to clean and feed everybody. But I think compared to my husband I have it so easy. He works his but off and pays for everything so that we can stay happy and I can stay home with our babies. No complaining here. :-)

[Furby85]

I'm 29 and expecting my 5th a month before my 30th birthday. After awhile it just becomes natural. You figure out your own system. I have ocd terribly but with each child I have learned to turn a blind eye (to an extent) to a little bit of mess. If I tried to keep my house perfect my kids would ne miserable, and I would have a head full of gray hair! Best advice is dont look around at others and how they do things. Do what you can, to the best of your ability and do not compare yourself to the next mom. I catch myself doing that and its not fair to do to yourself.

[Emilee99]

In also think things can wait. It's hard to make the house wait (trust me I know!) But when ypur kids are all grown ypu won't think of how clean the house was, you'll be sad that you didn't spend as much time as you wanted. I suggest setting aside time to do each thing like above said. There is also no shame in asking your husband for a little help. Even little things can help tremendously if it's putting the dishes in the sink and rinsing them out, or loafing the dishwasher, maybe gathering the laundry for you. Just quick things that he can help.you out with. My mom was a stay at home mom and my dad always would cook.dinner a couple nights a week and clean up to help out. I'm a sahm too now and my husband does the dishes every other night (to help while I'm pregnant) and once the babies get here I've told him I'm going to need help for a little while until we get a routine down. Trust me, if it helps you stay sane, then he will want to help. And try not to worry about the house too.much. you're doing great!! Also, you might try the Moby wrap. I wore my son around constantly so I could get things done. I'm planning on the same with the twins so I can get things done and spend time with my 2 yr old. Good luck! Maybe take a hot bath tonight too :)

[bholcomb]

I'm 28 a sahm and I have a 8yr old and a 4 yr old.  And one due in April. My husband is a truck driver so he is only home 80 days a yr.  My oldest is in school and my son has speech twice a week it's a 30 min drive there and back. Most days my house don't get cleaned. I've learned if the dishes are done and the trash isn't full. I can sweep mop do laundry and the other stuff when my kids are in bed or they are playing. My kids love to help and we make a game out of picking. Let yoy middle child help some too. Or make certain days you do things.

[Ellena88]

Not judging mami is just a little advice: you can do a deep cleaning twice a week...the just maintain, when your baby sleeps use the time to be with your toddler you know honey the house can wait, your son can't is hard to do it, my 9 year old was 7 when my youngest was born...he was deeply hurt and he did told me!!! He thought i loved the baby more than him and that he was always alone (i did explain him it wasn't like that) when baby sleeps play with him, paint, read a tale or even have a little snack, hugh him everytime that you can and let him know how much you love him, it will make him feel better, sometimes you can do the cleaning at night, when my youngest was a newborn it was really hard for him, so i made him help me with little things like getting the diapper ready or even the wipes. The house can wait your baby boy can't , good luck mama i wish everything works out wonderful for you and make a deal with him and plans tell him things like on monday we will bake, tuesday ill clean, wednesday we will do mask etc. I hope i didn't offend you!!! You will do it great.

[triebsgal]

I am 27 have two of my own 7/5 and a step daughter thats also 7 from my husband and now one on the way! I work part time my husband works full time and I get the girls everyday right after school! Its a little over whemling but once the baby is born it will have three amazing big sisters to help riase him/her right! I look forward to this! my poor husband has alot of girls in his life im just hoping this one is a boy! After the baby isnborn back to school full time to finish my nursing degree! Good luck to you

[Lilmummyems]

I'm 27 too and I had a big rant on here the other day how over it all I am especially since I'm pregnant except bf don't work and isn't helping. I have a 9, 6 and 1 yo and it's soon to be 4 kids! I don't know any tips on handling anything, I just know us mums do what has to be done! Somehow we get thru! I feel like banging my head against a wall some days!!

[Manantiel27]

I have three kids 5 7 and 9 I work full-time and I'm pregnant with my fourth right now my boyfriend helps me out a lot there's days where the house isn't 100% perfect and that's okay its just going to have to be that way until one of your kids is old enough to help u like my 9 year old she helps me a lot it has been easier for me as time goes by and it'll get there for you don't worry and there has been a couple of times I broke down crying but then I stopped picked myself back up and kept on. Noe there a little older so it's easier looking back time flew by and that makes me sad I could handle at least two more kids of course with the help of my oldest and my boyfriend.