I have them really bad too. Only got them with my girls and they don't run in my family, just my hubbies - lol
for the most part, keeping weight down and drinking lots of water are all ive noticed that can help. I refuse to wear the compression hose....its too dang hot yet! Mine recede after delivery but I have a couple that stay nasty during my period and Advil helps, so until baby's born I just tough it out and try to prop my legs up any chance I get, not often. Thats the only thing that seems to help the pressure/pain.
I dont know what to do about them either. Mine are really painful and I've been wearing compression socks for a while :( I hope you can get some tips on what helps and feel better soon.