what's the point...

[darbel]

From the minute he wakes up he goes and hides out in his man cave to play football on xbox.. 9am-345 today.. (So far) all while i care for the 2 children, house work and meals... I honestly don't know why hes here.. Carrying his 2nd child, (10wks till due)...  Ive had it... Needed to rant.. :(

[4388403275215224134_556_5]

I would be selling that Xbox! And next time he makes a comment "good luck finding someone who..." I wud say good luck finding a real woman to put up with your crap!

[Lilmummyems]

While I was pregnant with our last daughter(this is our 4th)  my partner did that except out in his shed. For the entire pregnancy and after she was born I got not a scrap of help I was basically ignored. I found out why his friends were there all the time they were all using drugs out there. So after a year of being nice about it and trying to reason with him i got angry I waited until he went somewhere, went out to the shed and took out the tv chairs and gaming systems cords every piece of drug using equipment, broke the lights (he didn't work so no way I was paying for new lights) and got rid of everything. I called him and told him what id done and what to expect when he got home if he didnt like it he was welcome to leave. Yep extreme but it was called for. When his friends came knocking on the door they were all told if they come back i was calling the police. We still ended up losing our house but at least now we live with his mum she's been on my side getting rid of all the so called friends so he had a chance to get off of the drugs which he's now clean and helps me a lot more. I'm not saying that's what you need to do but sometimes it takes extreme measures to get your point across.

[darbel]

The only bill i dont help pay is internet, becuz he then can have xbox live.... I bought the house, we both split the other bills 50/50. I work from,home doing a childcare so im home all day. Maintaining housework.. The kids are with me 24/7.. He does what he pleases. No matter what i say. He doant do laundry, clean, dishes, nothing... Idk why he ever striked my interest. Or why i let h im stay after cheating for months while i raised our son.. Im just the b**ch, always...

[nonishy]

I'm sorry you are going through this. My husband plays his xbox too but if i tell him to help me or to turn it off for awhile he does. I'm sorry you have to deal with a person like this. And if he serious said that to you, then wow, he needs a reality check. And even if he paid all the bills by himself he shouldn't talk to you like that.  I think you need to talk to him and let him know where you draw the line.

[specialmom]

My husband is our financial supporter and I stay home. But still . . .   he can't  hide out doing nothing all weekend but play around with a gaming system (which thankfully he has no interest in).  We own a home . . .   there is always stuff to do.  There's laundry, there's dishes, there's all sorts of stuff.  I do most of the work at home during the week when he is at work but I expect help during the weekend.  Not to mention that is his bonding time with kids.

Put your foot down and consider removing the gaming system from your house.  good luck

[darbel]

Yes he works n pay bills. But so do i. Why should i do all the house work and child care when we pay the same amounts.

[darbel]

640 and hes still playing. Ive asked for help. I reminded him being pregnant and doing the work of 4 people is stressful. His response "good luck finding someone whose willing to help you as much as you need..v this is ********.. Feel bad that my unborn child will have to deal with what my son had too.. Its not fair.. :(

[LyakGarcia]

Even if he works and pays bills he needs to help, it takes 2 to tango, go out and leave him with the kids, even if he ends up ordering pizza its not like  they eat that every day, daddy will have to wash hands and faces, plus kids will be after him all day, and if he gets mad just tell him you are going out again next week and to get used to it, you need a break girl!

[tat87]

Hey its 2pm here and mine is still sleeping. It's a holiday, so I figure wth, let him do whatever the fack he wants.

[Jaynie_3rd_baby]

Men sometimes don't realize that we get overwhelmed some days. Gently let him know, I'm sure he'll ask what he can do to help. My husband is great now, but our first few years were interesting! He's Dad of the year and Husband of the year when i gently remind him that i need some help.  Good luck!

[janarams2004]

Does he work and pay the bills also?
I would have a problem with that if he wasn't helping at all including financially