who should I contact?

[bcmom24]

My baby's father and I haven't talked in almost 2 months. He didn't reply to my last email and he blocked me on fb. He hasn't tried to contact me since then. He says he doesn't think he should be involved in our baby's life, but says that he still wants updates on her. His parents know about the baby and I've met them. They were nice to me and treated me well. His mom gave me her contact to update her on the baby. I'm due in 2 weeks. Should I even contact him after the baby is born? I'm upset with him cause he acts like he doesn't care. Or should I contact his mom instead? Or contact both of them?

[bcmom24]

I copied and pasted what he said to me about taking him to court and child support. This is what he said.

"Stop harassing me and telling me you're taking me to court. You should stop while you are ahead. I don't have to pay you a dime if you're talking about child support. You should be careful with what you say to me because you're going to push me away and that's not smart for the baby."

He's being such a douche.

[elle30]

I dont know how it works with 2 countries but my dad was always a total deadbeat and never wanted to pay child support when me and my 2 sisters were kids. Eventually he got so backed up in paying the state took it from his paychecks. Don't let him get off that easy. It takes 2! Good luck

[mommabear2015]

Just talk to a lawyer I'm sure they have some laws on that. as long as you do the best you can for her screw him and his family!!

[clairebabies]

I think what really matter is you got your child support and live happily ever after with your little angel. For the people who don't even care for their own kid, they are trash and they don't deserve anything, not even a pic of your baby!!

[bcmom24]

@ireloc exactly! I will let him know that. That he can't be in and out of her life. It's not fair to her. I don't wanna deal with someone who's selfish. I'm due in 7 days. I wanna focus on my little girl. It's gonna be hard enough caring for a newborn. I don't want any added stress.

[ireloc]

If he can't make an effort to be in her life and participate then why should you make an effort to update hin on her?

Definitely go for the child support and if he decides he wants to be a part of her life make it very clear to him that a part time daddy won't work, it's be a full part or nothing (not saying u guys need to be together or anything like that) but he needs to be more than a once a month visit.