Question regarding a possible pregnancy

[Poirot]

Hello,

I am a guy, and naturally, I do not know much (i.e anything) about the female menstrual cycle. I think I may have gotten myself into a little bit of trouble. If you could help me out in any way, I would be extremely grateful.

On October 30th, at close to 2:00am, I had unprotected sex with a woman. (I know that having unprotected sex is about the worst thing you can do, and I am an IDIOT!!!! for doing so.) Now I am worried that she may be pregnant.

Here are some of the facts:

- I have talked with the woman I had sex with, and she told me that she is on birth control.

- She also told me that she had her period on November 2nd. (Only 3 days after we had sex).

- I also "pulled out", and never ejaculated in her. About 1 hour later, we had sex a second time. I did not ejaculate inside her this time either. I bring this up because I have read that "pre-***" can carry left over sperm into the vagina without ejaculation ever having taken place.

- I have asked the girl I had sex with to take a pregnancy test 3 times, and she said no all 3 times because she is adamant that she is not pregnant. Now, she won't even speak with me, or answer my phone calls, which makes me worried.

After hearing that my "friend" had had her period, I thought that we were both in the clear, pregnancy wise. After doing some research, however, I learned that this may not be the case.

So my question to you all is, is it possible that I got my friend pregnant? We had sex 3 days before she had her period, but I have heard that some woman can ovulate as quickly as day 5 of their cycle. Considering the fact that sperm can live for 7 days inside a woman, could I have gotten my friend pregnant? Am I worrying too much about this, or should I be concerned? Also, do I have my facts right?

Lastly, do any of you know of a hotline that I can call that can answer some of my questions?

Thank you so much for all your help.

[Poirot]

Thank you very much for all your replies. They have been very helpful.

I guess my biggest concern is that my sperm will live long enough to be there when she ovulates next. I read above that it is uncommon for a woman to ovulate so close to her period, but you never know.

This whole situation has been a very strong wake up call. It will never happen again. Now I guess I should just hope for the best!

Thanks again

[Clysta]

More than likely, no she will not become pregnant. However, never EVER take someone's word for something. She might be on birth control, but most women do not take it properly--they skip days and take it at random times and this makes birth control ineffective.

If she had a period, then yes you would know she's not pregnant. A female CAN NOT have a period while pregnant regardless of how many might claim they did or know someone who did. It's just due to what is actually involved in a menstrual cycle.

If you're concerned, make sure you always use condoms when you have sex and make sure you're in a relationship that is committed. While many participate in causal sex you also not only risk pregnancy with someone you don't know or want to be tied to for the rest of your life (and when you have children with someone you're stuck with them forever) but also disease.

[montanagirl7676]

If she had her period, it is highly unlikely that she is pregnant. It all depends on ovulation, which can be hard to pinpoint. ON AVERAGE, a woman will ovulate at mid cycle, which ON AVERAGE, is 12-14 days from the first day of her last period. This can vary a bit from woman to woman, and even be different for the same woman from month to month. She will be fertile for 24-36 hours after ovulation. Is it likely that she ovulated either a week before or after her period? No. It is not likely. Is it medically impossible? No, it is not. If all the stars aligned just right, on a very slim chance, it theoretically could occur, but again, it is not likely, especially if her period came 3 days later.
You are correct about pre-***, however. It can contain sperm cells at anytime. That is why you should where a condom before having any contact, as well as protection from disease. If you are so concerned about not conceiving, a condom should be non-negotiable.
Lastly, I don't blame your friend for not taking your calls. It is great that you are concerned about the situation, but to continue to insist that she take a pregnancy test, even after her period, is a little strange. (Not to be offensive, but you asked for opinions) Sounds like it is time to move forward, and if you are not in a committed relationship & trying to have a baby, suit up! Best of luck to you!

[keostrand]

I don't think you have anything to worry about. Most women do not ovulate that close to their period. Also if she was on birth control and you did not *** inside of her it would be very very rare she would get pregnant. And about her not calling you back... If a "friend" I had sex with was trying to get me to take a test when I am 99% sure I'm not pregnant I probably would get annoyed and ignore them too.