Worried n Confused

[Stashie23009]

ok i had a normal period 3/12-3/15. then light almost spotting 4/3-4/5. my period was supposed to come 4/3 nothing i took pregnancy tests on 4/12, 4/20, 4/30, 5/6 all negative watt should i do?

[Stashie23009]

well i have 2 wait for him 2 get paid i have 2 go get blood drawn for my hypothyroidism so i would rather get stuck once but i might schedule an appointment with my dr also

[Clysta]

By now a test should be showing accurate. It's only under very uncommon circumstances a female never shows up on a pregnancy test---though you'll hear dozens of claims that women don't. You would do best to see a doctor and not waste any more money on tests.

[Stashie23009]

i took another test n it was negative n also now im 12days late

[Stashie23009]

well ill go talk 2 a dr after i get a blood test n also after i get my other stuff done.

[Clysta]

There's a .2% chance and less of pregnancy, and we wouldn't have unprotected sex until he had a clear report anyways. I already checked up about it a few weeks ago. Implanon is a good option, and lasts for a long time. They're also highly effective at preventing pregnancy. Actually....since I'm not breastfeeding anymore that's a new option for me. I think I'd almost prefer that over the IUD....

[Stashie23009]

i was also told that were i live they wont put in an iud till u have had a baby.

[Stashie23009]

if he gets a vasectomy there is still a chance of pregnancy. either he has 2 jack off 10 times or u have sex w a condom 10 times cuz my brother had one n thats watt the dr told him.

[Clysta]

So try something like the Implanon or an IUD. I know when I'm allowed to I intend to get the Paragard put back in. Either that or the husband is getting a vasectomy. We haven't decided yet.

[Stashie23009]

i used the ring n it confused me like crazy n i could feel it during sex n it hurt. n i was on the shot n i now have extremely heavy periods thanks 2 it n now im fat because of it also

[Clysta]

So use something else. There are dozens upon dozens of options out there. IUD, Implanon, Patch, ring, shot, pills.

[Stashie23009]

no im not joking the lube makes me itch, it burns, n i get bumps so vie tried a lot of condoms n some how it happens w all of them. n iv been treated like that for years w my sisters kids

[Clysta]

Oops. Said physically twice. Physically, mentally and sexually. Hard to type when you have an 8 month old treating you as a jungle gym. =.=

[Clysta]

Not all of em have it. I'm really not trying to be rude. I'm being realistic. You're making excuses for everything. Point is you don't want to do or use a lot of things. I could blame my childhood on my problems, but I don't because I know better. I was abused physically, mentally and physically since I was 2 years old till I was 15. I watched my dad try to light my mom on fire, and used to lie awake at night praying I would make it through the night alive. I have suicidal tendiances, depression and suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. I refuse to let any of it run my life. You need to remember. We are who we make ourselves. If you want to be nothing, you will. If you want to be the richest person in the world, you will be. Too many people try to live up to others standards, or are just lazy. Then say it's because of so and so that they are the way they are. There are no excuses.

[Stashie23009]

im alergic to the lube on most condoms

[Clysta]

You don't even have to use birth control. I use condoms if we have sex. There are dozens of options out there. It's not even about making others happy. It's selfish to have children if you know you can't handle it. You've said enough that shows that you are not. You have no education, no desire to get one and no future planned. We are what we make ourselves. If you have no desire to do anything, you never will. You are more than capable of making a good life for yourself. You just don't want to. If you want children, do so. But be prepared for more hardship. Without an education you go nowhere in the world. And this will only make life that much harder for that child.

[Stashie23009]

my mom wouldn't have finished high school anyway. she was an addict of drugs, alcohol n sex. n im not going to rely on the government or family. i never saw my mom or dad. i was forced 2 go 2 my families because my dad had cancer n after he died i was forced to go stay with them still. i was adopted n now im separated from my brothers and my biological family that wants me. im looking into school thanks 2 my grandma. i need 2 c something in my future before i try because i thought i had a future doing a lot of stuff but ended up loosing it because of others taking it away. i hate school because i was bounced around so much i went to 10 different schools never stayed in a place long enough to make true friends or even get school. so y try wen ill just move?  im not getting on birthcontrol period if we barley have sex, he barley looks at me or anything like that how can i get pregnant? idc watt others think of me because im done making others happy thats all i've done because no one ever told me that my dad died because of cancer  thought he died because of me being mad at him. then i thought he left me because of it. im not going to a stupid therapist because they r all the same they tell u watt they think u want 2 hear n they judge u. i've been to a lot of them because i was forced to go. n i no watt i want 2 do its there is no schooling for it anywhere i've looked n watt i do wasn't 2 do it spend my days with dead bodies. n my family would kill me if i did that because its gross so i stoped looking into it because i want 2 make others happy b4 myself. i no watt i can do n want 2 do. its hard 2 do stuff u want wen u have NO ONE ON YOUR SIDE n its hard 2 enjoy watt u love or want 2 do also

[Clysta]

No one thinks you're stupid. You can be well informed on many things and still make bad decisions. Yes, it's your life but once you have a baby it isn't anymore. It's about that child. You might struggle, but so will that child. You don't have to know a lot about babies to have children. There are many people who know babies inside and out. Doesn't mean they need to have them. I know people who know nothing about children, and I feel they would make amazing parents.

If you were born to a young teenage mother, in most cases this would prompt you to wait and get your own life in order. You've not graduated high school, and you have posted you have no desire to do anything with your life. The life we lead transitions to our children. Do you want them to grow up and make nothing of themselves? Do you want them to see you struggle and fight because of the choices you make? Or drop out and have children at 14? My mom detested that she didn't finish high school. It was even worse that she had to ask for MY help to graduate---I was 8 and she was 26 and she graduated in 07. I saw that kind of life and decided I would never be anything like her. And I'm not. I graduated with a 4.0 and don't struggle. I'm able to stay home with my daughter, and my husband works. What you do now affects everything in your future. It is horrible to grow up poor. I remember crying myself to sleep at night because I knew it was because of me and my sisters that we struggled. I watched my mom work 3 jobs to raise us alone. We never saw her. And then I had to work so I could actually help when I was 17. IF you know you can support a child alone, by all means have one. But don't if you know you can't, and would need support from family. It is your job alone as a parent. Not your families, and not the governments.

[Stashie23009]

i was born out of a 16 year old mother my older brother was born wen she was 14. i think i no a lot of stuff wen it comes to babies. its my life. i no there r 3 types of abortions i no there r 3 types of adoptions n 1 option of keeping it. i looked it up along time ago. i no how much abortions cost i no how much adoptions help others n yet i no how the kids can feel after an adoption. im not as stupid as u guys think

[Clysta]

I agree with the others. You're talking about rare cirrcumstances. I AM a person who had IUD perforation and one of the only ones they had ever had. If perforation was that common, they wouldn't use them. As others said, it's not your families job to help. They might, but part of being a part and an adult is being responsible. Having children when you don't have a stable job OR relationship just because you don't want to use something is extremely irresponsible. I personally don't use birth control right now, but I'm also not sexually active at all. We can't afford another child, and the risk isn't worth it to us. If you don't want to use anything for whatever reason, you need to abstain. Think about it. Is it worth destroying an innocent babies life and stressing your own out over laziness and immiturity?

[sweetpea03]

It's difficult to read what you are trying to say, so please try to type in plain English. As I have said a number of times, there are many options for birth control. Not all require you to remember to take them, like the IUD. It's very rare for an IUD to implant itself. Make sure you have reliable, correct information about birth control options because what you are talking about is extremely rare. Also, just because you like kids and want to be a mother, does not mean you should get pregnant. You need to think about having a good job, a stable loving relationship, a place to live, financial security, etc. It is not your parents responsibility to raise your child. You need to be responsible for your own life and take precautions. There are some things we may not want to do, but we have to do them anyways because that's part of life. Start taking responsibility, go to your doctor and talk about birth control options.

[vmvnpv]

If you are having problems with your BF DO NOT HAVE KIDS WITH HIM RIGHT NOW!  A baby deserves a home with TWO loving parents.  Ones that can get along with each other.  It does not deserve to grow up in turmoil.  If you have a child now you would only be doing it out of selfishness and your childs life will suck.  Guaranteed.

[Stashie23009]

he wants 2 b a dad n idc if im a single mom i have plenty of family that would help n our problems r getting better except his new one but thats different. n 1 iud can implant itself into the lining or yr uterus n i have talked 2 a dr about birthcontrol n nothing is watt i want 2 do. n honestly rite now i don't have 2 worry bout getting pregnant if he cant cumm. n like i said b4 i would use it 4 a while n stop im not good at taking meeds n idk if anything will react w my thyroid meeds.

[sweetpea03]

Everyone's body reacts differently, which is why I told you to talk to your doctor about birth control options to find out what would work best for you/your body. Also, an IUD is not dangerous/will not take your life. You are very misinformed about birth control and you should talk to your doctor about your options. I've read elsewhere about you having problems with your boyfriend. I just want to say that having a baby is not going to fix relationship problems and will only magnify the situation and put a lot more stress/pressure on the relationship. You may very well end up a single mother if he is not ready for a child. Look into birth control options to see what will work best for you to avoid getting pregnant before you are ready.

[Stashie23009]

i am ready i was on depo n hates it nuva ring was confusing i no someone who has the implant n has had 3 kids n iud i would b better off getting my uterus taken out. im not risking my life just 2 prevent a pregnancy i want