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sex drive
My sex drive is in the negative lately. It hasn't been great since I started anti-depressents 7 years ago but since I've gotten pregnant, the thought of being touched repulses me. My hubby's been good about it, but disappointed I think. Anybody else having similar problems? I keep reading that sex should be very good at this point in the pregnancy.
Its strange, For my second pg I was charged with a high sexual drive. I would crave for sex everyday until DH himself told me in my 8th month that I was too big for him to try any position and he himself suggested we wait till I delivered !! With this 3rd one -I have no drive at all. And becos I am so massive now - Dh understands and noticed I am tired all the time he does not hold it against me though he teases me he is deprived and wants to complain to the "Husband Association" (a joke between us). LOL!
I'm with you on the low sex drive since I got pregnant - and I (sadly) have a low sex drive to begin with! I'm not on any medication, so I have no drugs to blame. I think for me it's just the hormones. I'm just hoping my old level of sex drive returns at some point... My husband is super-understanding, but it's no fun for him!
Thanks for all the replies. I have an appt on wednsday so I'll ask my midwife. I do still feel exhausted and I still get morning sickness occasionally but I figured it was the medication because I didn't mind sex during my other pregnancies. We don't get much alone time. We really have to plan for it, but it's been that way for the last couple years. We work opposite shifts and don't have anyone to take the kids overnight.
I am not allowed to have sex even if I wanted. I am at risk for preterm labor and in early pregnancy I have had bleeding both times, so we have to wait till the baby gets here.
I haven't wanted sex since I got pregnant. We went from having sex daily sometimes 2-3 times a day to maybe 3 times a week. I've had a problem with bacteria vaginosis this is the third time now I've been on antibiotics. I can't have sex for a wk while taking them till it's cleared up. Now I feel a yeast infection coming on starting to itch. I just can't keep things in check down there with the hormones throwing everything out of wack. Even if I was able to have sex I still wouldn't want it.
I feel bad about it but nothing I can really do. It does help knowing I'm not the only one going through this.
I feel bad about it but nothing I can really do. It does help knowing I'm not the only one going through this.
It has varied for me. Sometimes it's strong sometimes I can go weeks without it and it not both me one bit...I have noticed it's a bit more intense for me now compared to before I was pregnant, so I do enjoy it. My husband seems weireded out by pregnancy, so even though he is still attracted to me when we do it he thinks of the baby probably because my stomach is in the way and he does't want to crush the baby...lol. So, that has been a mood killer for me because I feel like he doesn't want me anymore. Even though I understand because I feel weird sometimes having sex too even though it's perfectly safe. I still want him to want me... even if I don't want to have sex haha. He can't win....LOL
I would for sure talk to your doc about it. Maybe if it is some meds you are on she can make a change, but it seems this is very common during pregnancy. Good luck !
I would for sure talk to your doc about it. Maybe if it is some meds you are on she can make a change, but it seems this is very common during pregnancy. Good luck !
Hi Karen,
Just remember everyone is different. For example, they say the second trimester is the best time during pregnancy, and that expectant mothers usually feel energetic and blah blah blah. N/A for me. My second trimester has been just as awful as my first trimester. You don't want to know!!
Everyone is different so don't kill yourself over it. Blame the hormones, because those are to be blamed after all. It isn't your fault that you are going through this lack of sex drive. I, too, feel like that sometimes and it is completely normal. The hormones that can make you want sex can also make you not want it, and we really can't control that. Tell hubby to keep working with you. Remind him it isn't him and to keep having patience. You will come around once the hormones balance out. Have you spoken with your OB about this? I personally think you should.
Good Luck dear.
Just remember everyone is different. For example, they say the second trimester is the best time during pregnancy, and that expectant mothers usually feel energetic and blah blah blah. N/A for me. My second trimester has been just as awful as my first trimester. You don't want to know!!
Everyone is different so don't kill yourself over it. Blame the hormones, because those are to be blamed after all. It isn't your fault that you are going through this lack of sex drive. I, too, feel like that sometimes and it is completely normal. The hormones that can make you want sex can also make you not want it, and we really can't control that. Tell hubby to keep working with you. Remind him it isn't him and to keep having patience. You will come around once the hormones balance out. Have you spoken with your OB about this? I personally think you should.
Good Luck dear.
Oh, also for me my sex drive varied by pregnancy with my 1st i could'nt get enough, and with my 2nd i did'nt really want it much at all, my 3rd and this one it varies, so each one is different too!
have you tried taking a different anti depressant? I was on one before for PPD and it effected my sex drive, but I am currently on wellbutrin (it's during pregnancy) and it does not effect my sex drive at all! my current sex drive at this point in the pregnancy varies, I really like sex when I have it, but I don;t always want to start in the first place, because I am tired from the pregnancy and running around after my 3 other kid's all day! when /i actually do get started I really enjoy it, but I am not initiating as much! Good luck and I'm glad hubby is being understanding, that still must be kinda hard on him at times though! do you atleast get some one-on-one without the kid's?
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