others advice rant

[confused1020]

Ugh! I say i want to cloth diaper i get told not to. And im apparently crazy. I say i want to cosleep for the first few months and ebf and again im crazy. I say i only want the graco 4ever convertible carseat and i get told im crazy and stupid. That im wrong.. im going to want disposable and my kid to sleep in a crib right off the bat and to bottle feed and to have an infant carrier.. NO I DONT! im going to raise my child how i want! Hell i can't even say i want an all natural no drug birth without people telling me im wrong... jesus just because im a ftm doesnt mean idk what i want! Ive done research on this stuff for years! Not to mention helped raise my nieces and nephews and little brother. Rant over sorry

[minimango]

It's your baby do you can do what you want. It's all about personal choices and preferences. I do know co-sleeping in the same bed isn't recommended due to potential risks of suffocation. I've opted for a bassinet beside the bed to keep him close. I recently took a class of sids and it was interesting to hear about the different generations recommending different things. I guess it's something we just have to get used to. I simply reply umhum, and keep moving! Good luck and don't let it stress you!

[mum2b260216]

Learn to nod along to people when they give you advice. But do your research and choose what you think is best for you and your baby, and not just because someone said so. If the advice is coming from a parent (in law), think about how much has changed in so many years since they were a young parent and that their advice may be completly out dated. Get advice from specialists, midwives... but make sure their advice is objective, not personnal on what they want or prefer but based on solid evidence. And maybe stop sharing your opinions with them if they are not supportive. I know this can be hard but it can result in you having some peace. Gook luck sweety :-*

[AnnieBrooke]

I agree, stop sharing your plans.  Do what you want, but don't tell it to people in advance; obviously it just brings on unwanted advice.  

[Leabellallee]

My advice: stop sharing your plans if you don't want other people's opinions. This is just the beginning. You'll be getting disapproving looks and "helpful advice" for the next 18 years.  It really won't matter to the baby if he's in cloth diapers or disposables, an infant seat or a convertible seat. All the baby is going to care about in the beginning is being near his mommy, eating, and sleeping. My only thoughts on co-sleeping are to research the safest ways to do it. Best of luck momma :)