Paternity test

[Fahfoha]

hello, everyone I am 18 years old and my boyfriend is 19. I am currently 14weeks and 6 days. I work 84 hours a week and I am full-time student. I work so many hours because my family will not be okay with me being pregnant. I have to leave, I have no one but my boyfriend and even though I understand he need to know she's his but asking for paternity test Really hurts. My family is so striket and he knows. My mom watch every message every thing I do and I wouldn't cheat on him I feel so emotional and hurt. I just want to know how would u guys react? He is my first and for him to question I don't  know if am over reacting.

[AnnieBrooke]

Does "His perfect and great jand is here for me" mean you are saying he is perfect?  But then you say he doesn't trust you.  I'm not sure that sounds entirely perfect.  But anyway, call the local housing authority and see if you can get any leads for places to live.

[Fahfoha]

We are still unsure that's y were waiting on the call

[Fahfoha]

His perfect and great jand is here for me but doesn't trust me n his waiting on dollar general to call him because he applied there n I think he got the job

[Fahfoha]

am moving out just trying to find a place
Am just really hurt by my bf now

[AnnieBrooke]

In what state are you?  There might be a housing authority that can help you find a place.  Is there a women's shelter nearby that can advise you with housing references?  

[AnnieBrooke]

Fahfoha, why doesn't he have a job?  He sounds like a spoiled baby himself.  You are sure you want to be taking care of two children?  

[Fahfoha]

i get it and am trying not be stressed about because God knows how much stress I got but I don't even txt any one I don't have much friends  am not allowed to do any thing with my family and he knows so it's just like how could you even have this doubt but am doing it  I have always been good to him I bought a ps4 last week and I am struggling to find a place to live n with money but I did because I didn't want him to feel annoyed and bored all the time cuz he has nothing to do

[Fahfoha]

yes I understand where his coming from but he doesn't even have a job I work hard because I need to move out and he hasn't even talked about helping me and I will do it but it hurts

[mum2b260216]

Your hormones and being tired (which you must be from all those working hours) can make us react in ways that we normally would not react. I know that some people really get on my nurves for a few weeks, but i stop and think before reacting and realize its just the hormones and being tired. Like anniebrooke said, it wasn't very tactfull of him but if he wants to pay for it, its his choice. And you know he is the father, so no need to put on extra stress for you...

[AnnieBrooke]

Hi, it was not friendly of him to say this to you now, especially since he was your first.  However, given that guys are expected to pay for 18 to 21 years of child support and possibly the college costs of the baby, men do have the right to be sure.  He deserves to see the child's DNA test simply so he will never worry or wonder.  There are more polite ways to say this and ruder ways to say this, and it sounds like your boyfriend chose one of the more tactless ways.  But he is not wrong to want to be sure, and that is nothing on you in terms of him thinking bad thoughts of you.  He is being asked to pony up a lot of money, love, time, energy, and emotional commitment over a long period of time.  He has the right not to ever doubt.