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how often should a man with a family be going out?
My fiance and I have a 4 yr old and one on the way.. I feel like he's out at least between 2 and 4 times a week that's including the wknds.. at the tattoo shop or wherever.. no matter what he does it seems he's always too busy to be home.. some days he wont even eat dinner he just goes to a co workers to help fix a car or help someone do something ..I have been arguing with him about this since my daughter was little and I'm just tired of arguing.. I can't do it anymore I'm just done.. I'm jw what is a "normal" amount to be out with friends and not at home. I'm here at home cooking cleaning taking care of our daughter and being pregnant while he just has fun.. I never do much unless my daughter is in pre school so that leaves me 4 hrs and that's usually the time I do laundry and cleaning then I pick her up.. is this fair? Is doesn't seem fair to me or am I just being crazy
Take it day by day... Have a plan in mind and surround yourself with people who you can trust. Sounds like you're a smart woman... Be strong and God bless you and your babies!
I just don't undeestand how so much can happen at once.. he can get up to 5 yrs prison time.. I just lost one of my best friends due to a motorcycle accident the same week, had to move out in one day by myself and left to unpack and care for our daughter whom has so many allergies and health concerns she's a full time job in its self. I know what I need to do, I just need to wait until monday to find out how lo g he will be getting so I can leave. My mom has offered me to move with her in wisconsin, which isn't what I'd prefer but at this rate I just need to leave california. I'm so worried about this baby now bc of how stressed and what a wreck I have been! I'm not sure how much more I can take after all of this.
4th DUI can result in automatic jail time. You have to do what's best for you and your children. My mom married a drug addict when she was very young and got pregnant. She had my sister by herself bc he disappeared on her due date, he later ended up in jail and she pled with the judge to put him in rehab, once he was in rehab she had him sign over custody papers, relinquishing his rights and she never looked back. Being a single parent was very hard for her she had lost both her parents and had no help but she did it and Met my father 3 years later. Not saying this is your path but never be afraid to start over. We are each stronger than we think.
Have to do whats best for you and your little ones.Sounds like you need some time and space to focus. All this stress is bad for you. You don't need it, or like you said deserve it.
That's awful, I'm sorry you hafta deal with it. He sounds like an alcoholic... I hope you find a way to either talk to him about changing or get yourself out of there
Lost his job were moving in with his family my car is a pos and I'm just over it.. idk how I ended up here or with bad karma bc I don't deserve this.
He's out drinking for the most part I'm just sick of it and have officially hit rock bottom.. gonna have another baby with a guy who can't even grow up himself.. I'm mad at myself because when I left him before I should of stayed gone..instead I gave another chance and look where I ended up. Got his 4th dui tonight. Perfect.
I'm here all day with the kids and my husband doesn't go out at all. He goes to work and that's it. Anytime we go out it's with the kids. In the past 2years we have been out out like 3 times maybe. I don't think it's very fair for you and if he can go hang out why can he not stay home with the kids more and you go hang out.
Men do have big egos and are naturally more selfish than women (I know I'm generalizing). So instead of the complaining angle, say that you all miss him when he's not there and would like to spend more time with him. If he feels like he's being nagged or might have to do work if he's home he's more likely to be elsewhere. Have you asked why he needs/wants to spend so much time away? Perhaps suggest that you all do things together even one evening a week...go for a walk or to the park or museum. Good luck!
My husband is not home often either.... He works his full time job and then does work for side money at night. Sunday is the one day that I demand he is at home with us all day, Sunday night we discuss what's going on during the week and we try to have dinner as a family one night a week, which he usually eats and runs to the next job or friends shop to help with something. He's always getting sidetracked and running late too. I never expect him home earlier than 10. We have a one year old daughter and he watches her Friday night while I waitress. The last time we went on a date just us was our anniversary in June. I get very frustrated with this but I'm just glad he's not at bars or gambling or wasting time sitting watching tv. Theres just never enough time or money but hopefully one day...
I guess it just depends on what you're ok with? We have just the baby on the way, no kids yet, and he's 29, I'm 31. Neither one of us go out much anymore. A lot of that is because we're trying to save as much money as we can for the baby, and also we just moved about 30 out of the city. I wouldn't mind if he wanted to go out once or twice a week right now but I think I'd start to feel left out if it was more than that And he wasn't inviting me along
He's not as committed as you are. Whether you want to live with someone who is not fully committed to the family is your decision to make.
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