My unborn son father :/

[Kitttttttyy]

I'm a first time mom ,my sons father has the worst temper ever an just blows up on me .. It hurts my feelings ! But I just keep my mouth shut to avoid arguments, theirs so much stuff that he does n thinks it's okay but as soon as I look at him wrong I'm the worst person ever.. Idk what to do ,

[smallbby]

No one will judge you hun... every relationship is diff and yet has similarities. You may b surprised. Private message if necessary. Good luck.

[specialmom]

Everyone's story is complicated hon and while each story is unique, they often have some common issues.  Anger issues are something someone either has to work on overcoming mindfully or they aren't good partners to be with.  

Walking on egg shells so someone doesn't explode is NO way to live.  Imagine a child in this situation.   This is not good.  good luck

[Kitttttttyy]

Yeah .its hard tho ,so much to the story nobody would understand but me

[smallbby]

If u feel its worth it.

[smallbby]

I learned my bd just talks loudly and firmly sometimes. I use to think he was being aggressive but he comes from a family that yells. I learned to not be so sensitive. Because what seemed like yelling to me was just him talking loudly. I would remond him of his tone and then we would continue w. Discussion if possible. Sometimes we needed the silence/space. Its up to you ti decide if staying is worth it. U guys have a family soon. Thing about the family. And decide.  Giving ultimatums usually damage a relationship. Do this or else never works. U have to learn to work w. Him

[smallbby]

My bd has a bad temper too. Through being with him i realized i had a bad one also. Before i got pregnant he could b a bad trigger. Something that seemed like nothing to me would be the biggest deal to him. We got so bad weve destroyed things -_- this is not healthy. But after a while we really started seeking outside help from family members and relationship forums. I was surprised to go through his email and seen him seeking for ways to deal w. His jealousy and such. He couldnt hear from me that he was wrong and vice versa. My mom would point out his argument his grandmother would tell him that he needs to apologize it just helped then the arguments didnt stop but the big burst eventually subsided. Then eventually we learned how to talk about things. Also with my bd i really had to learn him what triggered him and because i wanted to keep him i def learned what to do and what not to do for the sake of not only his happiness but my own. He realized i was changing also because i had to adapt to him and he really seems to appreciate it. That i try to keep him calm its like being with the hulk. I understand where u are coming from. I say u have to do what makes u happy. And really pay attention to if he makes u happy or not. I think if my guy wasnt so caring i wouldve probably left a long time ago. But i really paid attention to the good in him then things got better... Goodluck.

[AnnieBrooke]

I'd say that either he needs to learn to control his temper or it's time for us to split and me to see the lawyer about child support.  Sorry about the hurt feelings, but you don't have to sit there and take it.  I'd be saying goodbye to his cr ap.